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Widow’s adult kids begrudge her dating a family friend

DEAR ABBY: I was married for more than 30 years and have two grown children. The marriage wasn’t perfect, and I admit there were times when I badly wanted to walk out the door. My husband was charismatic and talented, but he was also an addict. I covered up most of his bad behaviors so our children would be protected from being hurt. He passed away suddenly. My children adored him but never really knew how hard it was for me to keep our family together.
Fast-forward to today: I am dating an old family friend I’ll call “Jeff,” who knew my husband well. He saw my spouse at his best and his worst, so I don’t have to sugarcoat my feelings with him. My issue is, I was so hurt during my marriage that I have a hard time trusting anyone. My anxiety is sometimes overwhelming.
Jeff is supportive and understanding and loves me despite my emotional behavior at times. My adult children are upset that I am dating and try to make me feel bad about it, which creates more stress. I don’t want them to know all the hell I went through, but at the same time, I don’t think their belittling me is appropriate. Is there a tactful way to explain to them that I just want to be happy and have the freedom to move forward?
READY FOR THE FUTURE

DEAR READY: A polite, but assertive, way to convey your message might be to say: “I have just one life to live, kids, and I intend to live it to the fullest. Jeff and I are old friends — he’s not a stranger. I don’t need your approval to move on with my life. If you can’t stop belittling and second-guessing me and treat my friend with respect, you will be seeing a lot less of me.”

DEAR ABBY: My brother has married a pushy woman who is incessantly forcing her way in where it is not wanted. With the recent death of our father, she has started sticking her nose into the family’s business affairs. This is not about money; our father died in debt.
I finally took exception to her overbearing behavior, and now I’m afraid I have damaged my relationship with my brother.
What can be done?
CORNERED IN KENTUCKY

DEAR CORNERED: The “pushy” woman your brother married is now a member of the family. When there is a death in the family, emotions can run high. If you feel you were too rough on your sister-in-law, you owe her an apology.

DEAR ABBY: A young, attractive female co-worker of my husband’s addresses him by his first name ending with “ly” (example: “Georgely”). When I asked how the name was acquired, both of them claimed they didn’t remember. They know I do not approve, particularly on social media for the world to see.
I consider pet names a term of endearment, to be reserved for one’s significant other.
Am I out of line, or are they?
NAME-DROPPINGIN WISCONSIN

DEAR NAME-DROPPING: What the pet name may signify is that your husband and his co-worker may have a closer personal relationship than simply a professional one. And in most cases, that isn’t good for business.
That he would allow this to persist publicly, knowing it bothers you, is disrespectful, and THAT is what is out of line.
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UPDATED: St. Mary schools making plans to sell more tickets after COVID restriction eased

St. Mary football fans will be able to turn out for high school games in larger numbers after the relaxation of crowd size limits for outdoor sporting events.

But that wasn't the only news on the COVID-19 front this week.

Louisiana, which once had some of the hottest of COVID-19 hotspots in the world, now has the lowest rate of new COVID cases per capita and the lowest positive rate in the American South, Gov. John Bel Edwards said at a press conference Thursday.

The news came even though Louisiana has moved into Phase 3 coronavirus restrictions in September, and many K-12 schools and colleges have reopened for on-campus learning.

Edwards said he relaxed the crowd-size limits for football games at the request of state Senate President Page Cortez and House Speaker Clay Schexnayder.

"I'm inclined to engage in reasonable conversation when I have the opportunity," Edwards said.

But "I can tell you we still have work to do and still have a ways to go," Edwards said.

Twenty-six parishes, including St. Mary, St. Martin and Assumption, where weekly average positivity rates for new COVID tests are no more than 5% may increase high school football stadium capacity from 25% to 50% at the parish's option. The 25% restriction may be imposed again if the positivity rate rises above 5%.

"High schools are already planning to sell more tickets for tonight’s games given the capacity level increase announced yesterday," Superintendent Teresa Bagwell said in an email.

The move comes as conservative lawmakers have tried to limit the governor's emergency powers to restrict commerce as a tool to slow the spread of COVID-19.

They point to a Louisiana economy that was slumping because of a prolonged slump in energy prices for more than five years before coronavirus emerged last spring .

Louisiana's unemployment rate topped 15% in April, when Edwards' stay-at-home order, the closure of nonessential businesses and school closures were in effect. The economic impact was blunted by federal aid, including at least $50 million in forgivable Paycheck Protection Program loans to St. Mary employers and and a $600 week federal boost in weekly unemployment benefits. Those benefits have expired, and partisan divisions have prevented new coronavirus aid from being passed by Congress.

New coronavirus infections were down by May, and Edwards ended the stay at home order and relaxed capacity limits on many businesses. But a second wave of infections followed Memorial Day, leading the governor to impose a mask mandate, close bars and limit crowd sizes, among other measures.

In an appearance at a St. Mary Chamber luncheon, Stephen Waguespack, president of the Louisiana Association of Business and Industry, criticized what he called Louisiana's "shutdown culture" that eases and then imposes restrictions in response to fluctuations in COVID data.

Louisiana's unemployment rate was 8.2% in September. St. Mary's unemployment rate was at 9.2% in August.

Edwards defended his decisions at Thursday's press conference.

"I'm asking you to ask [lawmakers] which of my decisions is inconsistent with what I'm being told by the White House task force," Edwards said. "Which are inconsistent with the science and the data?"

Edwards said that like many lawmakers and business people, he's frustrated with the measures needed to fight COVID-19.

"But the feeling that we're tired of it doesn't mean it's going to go away," Edwards said.

On Thursday, 24 new COVID-19 cases were reported for St. Mary, St. Martin and Assumption parishes, according to the Louisiana Office of Public Health. No new fatalities were reported.

Ten new cases since Wednesday raise St. Mary's pandemic total to 2,011.

St. Martin has eight new cases for a total of 2,191.

Assumption's six new cases raise the total there to 794.

The death tolls remain at 84 for St. Mary, 63 for St. Martin and 24 for Assumption.

Statewide:

--775 new cases make the pandemic total 178,171.

--9 newly reported fatalities raise the toll to 5,593.

--10 fewer COVID-positive people are hospitalized for a total of 598.

--4 fewer people are on ventilators for a total of 64.

Edwards noted that while hospitalizations were down Thursday, they'd increased by 58 in the three previous days.

"That remains the most concerning trend I see in the data we're reporting," Edwards said, "and we're going to continue to monitor that closely."

Two arrested in Berwick on drug-related charges

Staff Report

Berwick police arrested two people on drug-related charges, Police Chief David Leonard said.

—Jamarcus Gunner, 27, Sixth Street, Berwick was arrested at 12:09 a.m. Wednesday on charges of posses-sion with intent to distribute marijuana, possession with intent to distribute methamphetamine, transactions involving drug proceeds and possession of drug paraphernalia.

—Reva Thomas, 30, Sixth Street, Berwick, was arrested 12:09 a.m. Wednesday on a charge of possession of drug paraphernalia.

About 10:34 p.m., officers with the Berwick Police Department, with assistance from the St. Mary Parish Sheriff’s Office, executed a narcotics search warrant at a resident on Sixth Street. During this time officers came into contact with Gunner and Thomas.

Marijuana and methamphetamine destined to be sold were located along with U.S. currency and items of drug para-phernalia. Thomas was found to be in possession of items of drug paraphernalia. The residence where the incident took place is directly across the street from a church.

Gunner and Thomas were placed under arrest and transported to the Berwick Police Department. Gunner and Thomas were booked into the Berwick Jail on the charges. Both remain incarcerated in the Berwick jail awaiting a bond.

Assumption Parish Sheriff Leland Falcon reported these arrests:

—Jules Anthony Joiner Jr., 23, La Chene Street, Belle River, was arrested Monday on charges of aggravated flight, speeding, driving on roadway laned for traffic, failure to drive on right side of road, proper equipment required on vehicle, and signals required.

A deputy observed a vehicle on La. 70 in Pierre Part commit a traffic violation and proceeded to stop the viola-tor. As the deputy did so, the suspect vehicle accelerated to speeds in excess of 100 mph.

The suspect vehicle was eventually stopped and the driver, identified Joiner, was arrested. Joiner was booked into the Assumption Parish Detention Center pending a bond hearing

—Chaninthorn Jenice Cuney, 38, Henning Drive, Sulphur, was arrested Tuesday on charges reckless operation of a motor vehicle with accident and felony criminal damage to property.

Deputies were dispatched to a home in Bertrandville and were provided a description of a suspect vehicle that had purportedly caused extensive damage to private property at the location of the dispute.

Deputies noticed severe damage to the vehicle as well.

Upon investigating the actual crime scene and circumstances that led up to this incident, deputies determined that a suspect and the victim were engaged in a dispute. The suspect, identified as Cuney, ran her vehicle into several automobiles as well as a home and other personal property.

Cuney was arrested and booked into the Assumption Parish Detention Center pending a bond hearing.

St. Mary Parish Sheriff Blaise Smith reported these arrests:

—Yuri Hernandez, 30, Lake Palourde Road, Amelia, was arrested Tuesday on charges of child passenger re-straint system (three counts), driver must be licensed and careless operation. Hernandez was released on a summons to appear Jan. 7.

—James Oday Notto, 53, Freeman Street, Patterson, was arrested Tuesday on charges of brake lights re-quired, possession of marijuana, and possession of drug paraphernalia. Notto was released on a summons to appear Jan. 7.

Morgan City Police Chief James F. Blair reported these arrests:

—Carl Allen Jr., 29, Wren Street, Morgan City, was arrested at 5:42 a.m. Tuesday on charges of driving under suspension, no child restraint and no insurance, and on a warrant for failure to appear in City Court.

Officers responded to a vehicle accident U.S. 90. During the investigation, the driver of the vehicle, identified as Allen, was found to be driving under suspension.

During the investigation, it was learned that Allen failed to have a child in a car seat while driving and had no insur-ance. City Court of Morgan City also held warrants on Allen for failure to appear. Allen was placed under arrest and transported to the Morgan City Police Department for booking.

—Seth Wayne Dantin, 34 Cemetary Highway, St. Martinville, was arrested at 1:42 p.m. Tuesday on warrants for molestation of a juvenile.

Dantin was already incarcerated in the Morgan City Police Department Jail and was booked on warrants from the Franklin Police Department.

Berwick takes on Patterson in Friday football action

Read about upcoming games

Patterson and Berwick will open District 9-3A action Friday when they meet at Patterson in their annual rivalry game.
It’s the highlight of Week 4 action that also will feature district openers for Central Catholic, which will host Centerville for homecoming, and Morgan City, who will travel to face Ellender, both in Friday night contests.
Here are previews of the match-ups:
Patterson vs. Berwick
Patterson and Berwick each won their first games of the season last week and will be battling for the Brag Rag in their matchup at Patterson Friday.
While Patterson has dominated the overall series, Berwick has won three of the last four contests, including the last two games. A year ago, the Panthers defeated Patterson 29-26.
“We’ve gotten the better of them the last couple of matchups, and we’re hoping to continue that trend,” Berwick coach Mike Walker said. “I think it’s big for our kids to be able to compete and play against somebody for a long time statewide, not just locally. A team like Patterson has been one of the most respected teams in the state and in the area for sure. So for our kids to be able to compete against them and beat them, I think is a big deal for our program. ”
First-year Patterson coach Zach Lochard is hoping his team can retake possession of the rag this year.
“Since the past four or five years, they’ve had the best of us on that banner, so we’re excited and challenging these guys that it’s time to bring the banner back home where it belongs,” he said.
Patterson (1-2) comes into Friday’s contest after defeating Morgan City 66-7 a week ago.
Walker said the Lumberjacks’ speed and athleticism on both sides of the ball stick out.
“They’ve got a couple guys who can catch the ball on a bubble route or a hitch and take it the distance, so we’re going to have to do a good job of taking away the space, taking away some of the throws, forcing them to do things they don’t want to do, force them to be patient on offense and not big-play-us to death,” Walker said.
Berwick (1-2) comes into this week’s contest after defeating Cohen College Prep 41-0 a week ago, while Lochard said the Panthers have talent on both sides of the ball.
“Berwick is a very talented team,” he said. “They’ve got a lot of weapons on both sides of the ball. They’ve played some tough competition already this year, and obviously being a rivalry game, everybody’s very excited and locked in and working hard and staying focused over here.”
Central Catholic vs. Centerville
The Central Catholic Eagles will begin District 8-1A action and also celebrate homecoming Friday when they welcome Centerville to Morgan City.
Centerville (2-1) has won two straight after dropping its season opener to Delcambre. Most recently, the Bulldogs defeated St. Martin’s Episcopal 21-19 a week ago.
Central Catholic coach Tommy Minton said his squad will be facing a “typical Centerville team,” one that will run the ball and is physical at the line of scrimmage.
The Bulldogs run a Wing-T on offense that features running backs Tyler Gunner, Morty Frederick and Travis Billiot.
“All three of those guys are good running backs,” he said.
On the other side of the ball, the Bulldogs run a 50 defense, where Frederick also is a standout.
“He’s probably their best defensive player, too, at linebacker,” Minton said.
Minton said the Eagles are hoping one advantage they have in Friday’s matchup is that they can wear Centerville down. Centerville has many team members that play on both sides of the football, while the Eagles only have a few.
For Central Catholic, the Eagles will start sophomore Caleb O’con at quarterback.
O’con came in during the second quarter a week ago after junior Freddie Calloway went down with an injury on a touchdown run.
Minton said that Calloway’s injury will sideline him a few weeks.
“We got full confidence in Caleb,” Minton said. “He’ll step up and he’ll do a fine job.”
A week ago, O’con threw for over 100 yards with one touchdown and one interception.
Central Catholic (0-2) still is looking for its first win of the season.
A week ago, the Eagles fell to Ascension Catholic at home 41-21.
Morgan City
vs. Ellender
The Morgan City Tigers will begin District 8-4A action on the road Friday when it travels to Bourg to face Ellender.
Ellender has won two straight, most recently defeating Central Lafourche 45-13 last week on the road.
“They’re very similar to Patterson in that they’re very talented in the skill positions,” Morgan City coach Chris Stroud said. “They have tall wide receivers, good speed. They’re good in the secondary at linebackers, but they’re not bad on the O-line either. They’re playing good football right now. They’re coming off a big win.”
He said the Ellender quarterback is talented.
“Their quarterback really spins the ball well, and he’s a threat running the ball,” Stroud said.
The Patriots run a spread offense, while on defense, Stroud said they like to bring pressure.
Morgan City (0-3) is looking for its first win of the season. A week ago, the Tigers fell 66-7 to Patterson at Patterson.
Zion Holmes scored the Tigers’ lone touchdown a week ago.

From the Editor: Giving veterans a break

By BILL DECKER
bdecker@daily-review.com
If you’ve followed the race for 16th Judicial District attorney, you’ve heard about drug courts, changing the way bail is set, providing better funding for public defenders, justice reform generally, and that old favorite, “thinking outside the box.”
Incumbent Bo Duhe and challenger Lori Landry, a former 16th JDC judge, have lots of ideas.
One of them caught me by surprise. It came up during Duhe’s presentation Thursday at a St. Mary Parish School Board meeting.
Duhe talked about looking into the creation of a veterans court.
This isn’t meant to be an endorsement of either candidate. But veterans courts? There’s an idea that deserves an endorsement.
We’ve seen other types of courts aimed at a specific class of offender, based on the idea that those offenders need some type of adjudication other than locking them up for a while and turning them back out. Juvenile courts and drug courts are examples.
If you look at some statistics about veterans, you’ll get the idea that they face specific types of problems that seem unlikely to be solved by a conventional approach.
—On any given night, there are nearly 50,000 homeless veterans, according to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development. Veterans are 2% of the U.S. population but 11% of the homeless population.
—The Veterans Administration reported in 2019 that the number of suicides among veterans had declined. But the numbers were still alarming. The decrease in four years was from 22 per suicides per day to 17. The Military Times reports that some experts say the VA is drastically undercounting the number of veteran suicides.
—The VA says a fifth of veterans who seek treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder also have a drug or alcohol problem. A third of veterans seeking treatment for substance abuse also suffer from PTSD. And veterans with PTSD and substance abuse problems are prone to binge-drinking, the VA said.
It’s been a privilege over the last 35 years to interview veterans of every American war since World War I. As a group, they displayed a lot of courage in talking about their experiences.
But sometimes it was clear the memories were difficult to deal with.
One man who served in Vietnam as a helicopter door-gunner broke down and cried in our office as he talked about what he’d seen. Another veteran, a bomber crew member who was shot down and taken prisoner by the Germans, talked my ear off. A relative told me the man remained preoccupied with his POW experience after what was then half a century.
My World War I interview was with the father-in-law of a co-worker in Missouri. She called him ’Nother Daddy.
He talked about his life before the war, and he talked about wandering around France looking for food after the armistice. But I couldn’t get him to talk about what combat was like. His family told me later that he’d never talked much about his war experiences.
The closest I got was when he leaned forward in his chair to tell me what it was all about. At the time, in the mid-Eighties, I had long hair and a full beard.
“Whiskers,” ’Nother Daddy said, “you don’t want none of what I had.”
My own experience with relatives and co-workers leads me to think that the special problems of veterans are not limited to those who have gone into combat. Separation from the military even in peacetime seems to be a problem for some veterans, although certainly not for all. And sometimes those problems manifest themselves as substance abuse or emotional problems of one kind or another.
There seems to be a lot of variation in the way other jurisdictions have developed veterans courts. But the common threads seem to be a request from the veteran to have the case handled by a veterans court and agreement among prosecutor, judge and defendant that it’s appropriate.
The court would be empowered to explore options other than just jail time or probation for veterans. The options would presumably include mental health counseling or substance abuse treatment.
We often talk about the bad choices that offenders make, the choices that put them behind bars. Veterans made a choice to serve their country, knowing that they could be called on to put their own lives at risk.
They deserve a second chance.
Bill Decker is managing editor of The Daily Review.

Baldwin police: Man arrested in wife's shooting death

Baldwin Police are investigating a Wednesday homicide in which a man allegedly shot his wife to death, Baldwin Assistant Police Chief Samuel Wise III said.
The Police Department responded at about 12:48 p.m. to a call of a woman who had been shot by her husband, Wise said.
Wise said Angela LeBlanc notified authorities that while going to check on her mother, who was not answering the telephone, she noticed her father, Sonny LeBlanc Sr., riding a bicycle in only his underwear on the 200 block of Main Street. Sonny LeBlanc Sr. told his daughter he had shot his wife, Sandra LeBlanc, at 101 Newman St. in Baldwin, Wise said.
Officers discovered that Sandra LeBlanc, the decedent, had been shot in the chest area, Wise said.
Sonny LeBlanc was located near Dixon Funeral Home on Main Street in Baldwin, taken into custody and charged with second-degree murder, Wise said.
There is an ongoing investigation as to the cause of this tragedy, Wise said, and he said no further information is available.

Police search for two men after shooting near Lawrence Park

Two men are wanted in connection with a shooting Wednesday night near Lawrence Park in Morgan City.

Aris Granger and Caswick Clark are named in warrants alleging eight counts of attempted first-degree murder, aggravated criminal damage to property, illegal use of a weapon and violation of a fire-arm free zone.

Police responded to a report of shots fired on Third Street near the park about 6:49 p.m. Wednesday. Detectives learned that several shots were fired.

"The charges stem from the number of people in the area along with the area being a firearm free zone," the Police Department said in a new release.

Granger and Clark should be considered armed and dangerous, police said. If you see either of the two suspects, please contact the Morgan City Police Department or your local agency.

LAGCOE marks 65 years with poster exhibition

October 2020 marks 65 years of LAGCOE’s service to the Louisiana and global energy industries. From its humble origins in the parking lot of Lafayette’s Oil Center to its most recent expansion to the New Orleans Ernest N. Morial Convention Center, LAGCOE’s history bears a strong resemblance to the cyclical nature of the energy industry and highlights its importance to the economy and culture in Acadiana.
To commemorate its 65th year, LAGCOE will display event posters from throughout the organization’s history that demonstrate the ever-changing nature of both the Expo and the organization itself.
LAGCOE will host a small cocktail party on to open the exhibit to the public. The festivities will kick off at 6 p.m. Saturday at the Lafayette International Center.
Due to social distancing guidelines, the event is by invitation only. However, members of the press are encouraged to attend.
The posters will be displayed at the Lafayette International Center during normal business hours throughout the month of October.
For those who still wish to participate in this historic milestone but are not comfortable attending physically, the posters will also be available for viewing in a virtual museum.
Once live, viewers can access the virtual museum via the LAGCOE website at www.lagcoe.com/events/65th-anniversary-celebration.

Morgan City drops district volleyball match

Staff Report
The Morgan City Lady Tigers fell to Lutcher on the road Tuesday in a District 7-III contest that was a battle of Division III top 10 squads.
Morgan City, ranked No. 8 in the latest Louisiana High School Athletic Association Division III power rankings, fell in straight sets by scores of 25-17, 25-22 and 25-16 to seventh-ranked Lutcher.
Mary Vincent led Morgan City with two kills, 16 assists and seven digs.
Other top Morgan City contributors were as follows: Haylie Crappell, one ace, five kills, one assist and nine digs; Sarah Daniels, six kills, one block assist and three digs; Brynn Stephens, two aces, one assist and nine digs; Mariah Pleasant, one ace, four kills, two blocks and one block assist; Arion Calloway, three kills, two block assists and one dig; and Kamryn Olivier, five digs.
In junior varsity action, Morgan City fell 2-0 (25-14 and 25-13), while in freshman play, Morgan City defeated Lutcher 2-0 (25-16 and 26-24).
Morgan City (10-8 overall, 1-2 in district) returns to action Thursday when it hosts Berwick in District 7-III play. It also is Morgan City’s annual Pink Game. Freshman action begins at 3:45 p.m., followed by junior varsity action at 4:30 p.m. A survivor ceremony, a check presentation and honorary serve all will be held at approximately 5:20 p.m., while the varsity contest will begin at 6 p.m.
CCHS defeats
Centerville
The Central Catholic Lady Eagles defeated Centerville in straight sets by scores of 25-9, 25-1 and 25-7 on the road Tuesday.
No individual stats were submitted from the nondistrict contest.
Central Catholic (9-8), ranked No. 11 in Division V, will return to action Thursday when it hosts East Ascension in nondistrict action.
Patterson falls
to LCA
The Patterson Lumberjills fell to Lafayette Christian Academy in straight sets at home Tuesday in District 2-IV action.
Patterson, ranked No. 30 in Division IV, fell by scores of 25-11, 25-9 and 25-12 to Lafayette Christian Academy, ranked No. 10 in Division IV.
No individual stats were submitted.
Patterson (3-7, 0-5) will return to action Tuesday when it hosts West St. Mary in district play.
Berwick falls
to E.D. White
The Berwick Lady Panthers fell to E.D. White in three games in District 8-III action in Berwick Tuesday.
Berwick, ranked No. 26 in Division III, fell by scores of 25-8, 25-12 and 25-14 to top-ranked E.D. White.
No individual stats were submitted.
Berwick (1-9, 0-3) will return to action Thursday when it travels to face Morgan City in the Lady Tigers’ Pink Game.

Gift for seniors

Submitted Photo
Morgan City Rotary Club recently applied for and received a grant from The Rotary Foundation District 6200 Club Grant Program. The grant was used to obtain headsets and MP3 players for Morgan City Healthcare Center's Music and Memory program. Also contributing were the Morgan City Rotary Club, the Morgan City Lions Club, the and Kiwanis Club of East St Mary.

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