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DEAR ABBY: I have known my husband my whole life. We have been married 20 years and have three teenage children. Last year, I caught him cheating. Turned out he had been with someone for seven years. Our children and I were devastated, and he swore up and down he’d never do it again.
I am occasionally triggered by things I see, things he says or does, or things I know he has done with her. When it happens, I usually bring up the affair again. He can’t stand that I do. He says we have to put it in the past and work on our marriage. I told him this may be easy for him to do, but I’m not that kind of person. I tend to overanalyze and dwell on things.
We have been to marriage counseling, and I was grateful for that because he was always against it. It helped somewhat. I need to know how to stop bringing up these matters because it is ruining my health and our marriage. I love him very much.
One more point: I’m insecure because he is in the military and due to be deployed for a year. I’m afraid he may go online and start talking to someone. He swears he won’t do this to me again and he’s so sorry for what he did.
Please advise.
TOTALLY LOST IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR TOTALLY LOST: I’m glad counseling helped you and your husband through the rough patch.
Now it’s time for some more — for YOU, to help you cope with your insecurity issues. Making yourself crazy over what he “might” do during his year of deployment isn’t helping you or the state of your marriage. You have to make a decision about whether to trust your husband — and then proceed from there.

DEAR ABBY: An acquaintance from 40 years ago contacted me three years ago after, he claims, searching for and finding me on social media.
We have been speaking on and off since then, but he’s now calling every day (sometimes twice a day) saying he’s making travel plans to come see me. He lives in Canada; I’m in Massachusetts.
Way back when, he begged me to sleep with him, knowing I was dating his best friend. His friend was out of town at the time. Shocked and blindsided, I caved under his pressure and acquiesced, and then slept with him a second time. My boyfriend was still overseas, and I couldn’t tell if he had any intention of returning.
This acquaintance has yet to send me even a thorn, much less petal from a rose during the past three years and has ghosted me a number of times.
Should I entertain the idea of seeing him, let alone think there could be anything more?
I’m divorced, my children are grown and I haven’t enjoyed any male company for the last 14 years. All this time I’ve just been tending to my family.
DESIRING MORE THAN CYBERLOVE

DEAR DESIRING MORE: You may be lonely, but please, start thinking rationally. For your own sake, do not become further involved with a man who would seduce a woman who is dating his friend and who has ghosted you “a number of times” in the last few years.
During the periods in which you have been ghosted and lonely, it appears he has been very busy! This person is not to be trusted with your heart or anything else.
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(Editor’s note: The charges listed here and the narratives that go with them are provided by the police agencies that made the arrests. Guilt or innocence has not been determined in court.)

St. Mary Parish deputies reported two theft arrests Tuesday and a third on a public intimidation charge.

St. Mary

Sheriff Blaise Smith reported that over the last 24-hour reporting period, the St. Mary Sheriff’s Office responded to 33 complaints and made these arrests:

—Henderson Dwight Wesley, 30, Jeanerette, was arrested 10:12 p.m. Tuesday on a charge of public intimidation of a public official. Wesley continues to be incarcerated at the St. Mary Parish Law Enforcement Center.

—Dusty Lee Rogers, 33, Jeanerette, was arrested at 11:56 a.m. Tuesday on a warrant alleging theft. Rogers was released on a summons to appear Nov. 4.

—Lee Michael Boudreaux, 47, Amelia, was arrested at 6:35 p.m. Tuesday on a warrant alleging theft, recovered property and theft by fraud. Bail has not been set.

Morgan City

Interim Police Chief Mark E. Griffin Jr. reported that the Morgan City Police Department responded to 43 calls for service over the last 24-hour reporting period and made these arrests:

—Shina Short, 39, Arizona Street, Morgan City, was arrested at 11:59 p.m. Tuesday on a charge of failure to appear to pay fine (6th Ward Morgan City Court).

—Erik Benjamin Carter, 32, Mallard Street, Morgan City, was arrested at 12:09 a.m. Wednesday on charges of failure to appear for arraignment (16th Judicial District Court).

Patterson

Police Chief Garrett Grogan reported this arrest:

—Kellie Boudreaux, Willowbend, Patterson, was arrested at 3:19 p.m. Tuesday on a warrant alleging failure to appear on charges of suspension, revocation, or cancellation of license, no insurance and switched license plate.

Boudreaux was incarcerated at the Patterson PD Jail and released for time served.

The following are the radio dispatch logs from the Morgan City Police Department. To report unlawful or suspicious activity, call the Police Department at 985-380-4605.
Monday, Aug. 22
6:42 a.m. 300 block of Brashear Avenue; Theft.
8:35 a.m. 700 block of Belanger Street; Medical.
8:51 a.m. 700 block of Belanger Street; Medical.
9:02 a.m. 2500 block of Railroad Avenue; Complaint.
9:03 a.m. U.S. 90 Westbound between Martin Luther King/Brashear avenues; Traffic complaint.
9:07 a.m. 1000 block of Ramos, Siracusa; Assistance.
9:46 a.m. 1300 block of Federal Avenue; Medical.
11:09 a.m. 900 block of Marguerite Street; Complaint.
11:25 a.m. La. 182 Bridge; Accident.
11:34 a.m. 700 block of Federal Avenue; Complaint.
11:48 a.m. 300 block of South Railroad Avenue; Disturbance.
11:54 a.m. 7100 block of La. 182; Theft.
12:29 p.m. 200 block of Patton Street; Disturbance.
1:38 p.m. Marguerite Street; Found property.
1:38 p.m. 900 block of Duke Street; Medical.
2:04 p.m. 700 block of Levee Road; Animal complaint.
2:06 p.m. 400 block of Lawrence Street; Animal complaint.
2:09 p.m. 400 block of Adams Street; Assistance.
3:21 p.m. 700 block of Sixth Street; Complaint.
3:22 p.m. Victor II Boulevard; Traffic complaint.
3:25 p.m. 1400 block of Federal Avenue; Stand by.
3:33 p.m. U.S. 90 Eastbound past Martin Luther King Boulevard; Accident.
4:56 p.m. 500 block of Duke Street; Complaint.
6:19 p.m. 200 block of Belanger Street; Warrant/arrest.
6:47 p.m. Area of Federal and Railroad avenues; Animal complaint.
7:10 p.m. 700 block of Myrtle Street; Medical.
7:10 p.m. 2400 block of Tupelo Street; Medical.
8:14 p.m. 100 block of Railroad Avenue; Complaint.
8:44 p.m. 700 block of Myrtle Street; Arrest.
9:00 p.m. 300 block of Wren Street; Disturbance.
10:39 p.m. 1500 block of North First Street; Disturbance.
11:28 p.m. 500 block of Roderick Street; Walk-through.
11:28 p.m. 2000 block of Allison Street; Walk-through.
Tuesday, Aug. 23
3:22 a.m. 600 block of Front Street; Alarm.
4:03 a.m. 7400 block of La. 182; Walk-through.

Two men suspected in the firing of dozens of rounds into a Morgan City home in January have been arrested, the Morgan City Police Department said, and a third has been in custody since last month.

The three men, all from Hammond, face criminal conspiracy and weapons charges.

--Jaicherydan Treell Gutter, 24, Harrell Avenue, Hammond, was arrested at 4:28 p.m. July 26 on charges of criminal conspiracy to aggravated criminal damage to property and illegal use of dangerous instrumentalities.

--Tyler Raydell Andrews, 22, Harrell Avenue, Hammond, was booked at 11:05 a.m. Tuesday on charges of criminal conspiracy to aggravated criminal damage to property, illegal use of dangerous instrumentalities and possession of a firearm by a convicted felon.

--Damari Antonio Coleman, 22, Harrell Avenue, Hammond, was booked at 11:05 a.m. Tuesday on charges of criminal conspiracy to aggravated criminal damage to property, illegal use of dangerous instrumentalities and possession of a firearm by a convicted felon.

Morgan City police responded to the shots-fired report Jan. 24 in the Chester Bowles area. Officers found numerous shell casings in the street.

The Detectives Division responded and located video that depicted a black truck entering the area. Four men exited the vehicle, including three who fired at a residence over 35 times. At the time, the residence was unoccupied, the Police Department said.

Gutter was identified as one of the subjects involved in the investigation. A warrant was prepared for his arrest, police said.

On July 26, Gutter was located and arrested by the Berwick Police Department on the active arrest warrants held by the Morgan City Police Department.

The investigation continued, and investigators were able to uncover evidence further identifying two of the three remaining subjects involved, Andrews and Coleman. Further evidence was uncovered linking Andrews and Coleman to the crime, the Police Department said.

It was also discovered through the investigation that Andrews and Coleman were convicted felons, which means they are prohibited from possessing a firearm. Arrest warrants were prepared for Andrews and Coleman.

The information was turned over to the Louisiana Bureau of Investigations Fugitive Task Force. On Monday, Andrews and Coleman was located and arrested by the task force in the Hammond area. They were both transported to the Tangipahoa Parish Correctional Facility on the active arrest warrants held by the Morgan City police.

They were later transported to the Morgan City Jail and booked on their active arrest warrants.

The investigation is continuing. Anyone with information regarding this investigation is asked to contact the Morgan City Police Department Detectives Division at 985-380-4605.

Interim Chief Mark E. Griffin Jr. commended the Detectives Division for the effort in this investigation. He would also like to thank all the agencies who assisted in a collaborative effort: the St. Mary Parish Sheriff’s Office, the Berwick Police Department, the Franklin Police Department, the Hammond Police Department, the Hancock County Sheriff’s Office in Mississippi, and the Louisiana Bureau of Investigations.