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Girl’s tantrums stymie man’s relationship with her mom

DEAR ABBY: I have met the most remarkable woman, but after eight months of serious dating, I have realized that she has the worst and most manipulating 10-year-old daughter ever.
She constantly claims sickness, and now even mental health issues like anxiety and panic disorder, although they have never been formally diagnosed, to prevent her mother and me from having time together. Immediately after her mother agrees to her daughter’s request and lets her get her way, the kid becomes happy and energetic, and goes back to playing. (I feel she is laughing in my face.) The numerous cancellations and tantrums are very upsetting, and it hurts my feelings when the person I love most in the world sets me aside.
I had considered proposing marriage. I have a 13- and 17-year-old who are both respectful, energetic and happy. They have been through a lot since their mother abandoned us, but they would NEVER consider acting out like this girl.
Last weekend I was asked to bring her requested dinner and then leave, because she wanted Mommy to watch her watercolor. Abby, they are together every day, almost all day, and close relatives refuse to watch the child.
Is a resolution possible? Should I stay or should I go? When do I have the right to say enough is enough? The constant exclusions make me feel insignificant.
COUNTED OUT IN KENTUCKY

DEAR COUNTED OUT: If “close relatives” refuse to watch the child so your lady friend can have a break, there may be more to this story than you have written. The girl is fighting for her mother — and winning. From where I sit, Mama could benefit from some discussions with a child psychologist and lessons in how to say no to her daughter.
Adult relationships are supposed to make both parties feel better, not insignificant. As to whether you should stay or go, I think you would be wise to take a break from this relationship because, as it stands, it is going nowhere.
DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who has stopped by unannounced several times. She’ll send me a text, but without giving me a chance to respond, she just pops over. One time I was in the middle of studying for an exam and it wasn’t a good time. Other times I was busy doing something and was startled when she showed up.
Finally, I mentioned something in a text about how much I liked her as a friend but would really appreciate if she would wait for a response to her text before stopping by. It has been two or three days now, and she hasn’t responded. I even said I didn’t want to hurt her feelings and hope she understands.
I would think most people feel as I do about unannounced visitors, but I could be wrong. I would like to ask her how she would feel about it, but before I do, I need to know what’s “normal.”
BUSY AND BOTHERED

DEAR B&B: It is considered normal good manners to ask if it is convenient — and wait for a response — before stopping by someone’s home so it will not be an intrusion. You were studying, but many people work from home and also don’t want to be disturbed. Others prefer to be “presentable” before they have company. Interesting, isn’t it, how many self-centered individuals become hypersensitive when called on their behavior.
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Edwards: More communication, enforcement to battle COVID upsurge

The late-June surge in Louisiana COVID-19 cases has drawn the attention of a top federal health official as some local governments turn to mandatory masking to slow the spread while hoping to avoid more drastic measures.

On Wednesday, the same day the Office of Public Health reported more than 2,000 new coronavirus cases statewide, East Baton Rouge Mayor-President Sharon Weston Broome announced her intention to make face covering mandatory in public. The rapid rise in the number of East Baton Rouge cases, along with the rise in cases state wide, led federal coronavirus response coordinator Deborah Birx to call Gov. John Bel Edwards on Tuesday, he said at a Wednesday press conference.

Jefferson and Orleans parishes have already imposed mask requirements.

Other troubling signs have emerged, including a steep increase in hospitalizations. The OPH reported that 799 people are hospitalized for COVID-19 treatment across the state, the highest total since May 27 and up from a pandemic low of 542.

"Over the second half of June, we lost all the progress we made in June," Edwards said.

The timing is an important piece of the puzzle. Louisiana moved into less restrictive Phase Two mitigation measures June 5, and Memorial Day, the traditional beginning of summer activities, was May 28. The incubation period for COVID-19 is from two to 14 days, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Other Sun Belt states, from California and Arizona east to Florida, are experiencing rapid growth in the number of new COVID-19 cases.

People 18-29 account for a disproportionate share of new cases, and within that group 18- to 25-year-olds are over-represented.

Edwards continues to insist that the Louisiana surge in cases is related not to the easing of economic restrictions but to failure to comply with mitigation practices.

"Everybody has a role to play," the governor said. "There are things everybody can do."

Those things include wearing masks in public, washing hands often, staying home when sick and avoiding businesses where people are not complying with masking and social distancing requirements.

"If you're in the business community and you want to make sure the economy does as well as possible during this public health emergency," Edwards said, "and as many businesses as possible are open and employees are back at work and customers are in restaurants and stores, you need to do your part. ...

"I will tell you, the surge we're seeing is not because we went into Phase Two. It's because people aren't engaging in the proper behavior."

Edwards said he doesn't want to go backward into more serious mitigation measures. Instead, he hopes to succeed with more communication to the public and enforcing restrictions already in force, including capacity limits.

But he left the door open for stricter measures if hospital resources appear likely to be overwhelmed by new COVID-19 cases.

"We are not going to threaten our ability to provide health care," Edwards said.

To monitor the situation in Baton Rouge, additional testing sites are scheduled to begin Tuesday at Cortana Mall, LSU and Southern University, and the Greater Baton Rouge State Fairgrounds.

Stocking up: St. Mary Outreach ready to help

As the COVID-19 pandemic continues, supplies are full at St. Mary Outreach in Morgan City, with many in the community receiving aid from other agencies or government assistance.
“We’re stocked right now,” Executive Director Brenda Liner said. “We haven’t had to place an order in a few weeks, so our shelves are stocked and we’re meeting the needs of those who come to our door.”
She noted other agencies and churches have helped keep St. Mary Outreach’s supplies filled because they have been giving away boxes of supplies to those in need, while an increase in government assistance for food stamps with children being out of school also has helped.
Liner said that when the pandemic began to affect the area, she ordered anything she could because the stores were running out of products.
“That was my fear (that) we’re not going to be able to get it, so I got it while we could get it, and it looks like everybody did too,” she said of other agencies.
However, Liner knows St. Mary Outreach’s help will be needed soon.
“I know we will start to see an increase in people needing help with utilities and rent” now that landlords are allowed to evict tenants again, she said.
One item Liner said the agency could use is more disinfecting products to be given to those in need.
The agency is still operating under faceless interaction. Clients can come to the office (608 First St., Suite 102) Monday through Thursday from 9 a.m.-noon and 1:30-3 p.m. and on Fridays from 9 a.m.-noon.
They are instructed to call the agency at 985-385-4551 and following a phone interview, their items are gathered and placed on a table outside. Then, the caller is instructed to pick up the supplies.
When the state moved to Phase 2 of its reopening, St. Mary Outreach resumed accepting clothing donations, and each day, weather permitting, the agency is setting items outside for the public to take.
“Since we’re not having anyone come in, it’s the way to kind of move the clothes out of the donation room,” Liner said.
She said they will continue to accept clothes as long as they have room for them and as long as the state doesn’t take a step back, phase-wise, in its reopening process.

Morgan City Main Street wins national accreditation

Morgan City is one of 23 Louisiana communities designated as 2020 Accredited Main Street America programs, according to Lt. Gov. Billy Nungesser’s office.
“Accredited status is Main Street America’s top tier recognition demonstrating a commitment to comprehensive commercial district revitalization and proven track record of successfully implementing the Main Street approach,” the office said in its announcement Tuesday.
Morgan City Main Street has been an affiliate of the program in recent years but has now met the requirements for full accreditation, said Morgan City Main Street Director Beth Portero.
Each local Louisiana Main Street organization’s performance is annually evaluated by Louisiana Main Street, which works in partnership with the National Main Street Center to identify the local programs that meet 10 national performance standards, the Lieutenant Governor’s Office said.
Evaluation criteria determines the communities that are building comprehensive and sustainable revitalization efforts and include standards such as fostering strong public-private partnerships, documenting programmatic progress, and actively preserving historic buildings.
“To be nationally accredited means we’re in compliance at a national level with national standards …,” Portero said. “We’re using what we’re taught to help businesses. The cornerstone is economic development through historic preservation.”
The agency also directs grants for physical improvements and restoration.
Recently, Morgan City Main Street used a grant to distribute masks and cleaning supplies to businesses with the help of G&J Land and Marine, Cajun Breakers Inc. and Shannon Hardware.
Shannon Hardware also received a grant to improve its façade.
“As we move down the road to recovery, programs like Main Street America and the Louisiana Main Street Network will be needed now more than ever,” Nungesser said in a press release. “Our small business owners are the heartbeat of our Main Street communities. They give the community its sense of place and character and provide the uniqueness that sets one community apart from another.”
Nationally in 2019 alone, $6.45 billion of public and private reinvestment was generated; 6,466 net new businesses were opened; 32,316 net new jobs were created; and 10,412 buildings were rehabilitated in Main Street America communities, according to the Lieutenant Governor’s Office.
Overall, Louisiana’s Main Street communities have seen:
—$956 million in total investment.
—$460 million in Private Investment.
—$496 million in new construction and rehabilitation.
—9,600+ net new jobs.
—2,000+ net new businesses.
—171,000+ volunteers since 2004.
The other communities accredited for this year are Abbeville, Crowley, Denham Springs, DeRidder, Donald-sonville, Franklin, Hammond, Homer, Houma, Leesville, Minden, Monroe, New Iberia, Natchitoches, Opelousas, Ruston, Slidell, Springhill, St. Francisville, St. Martinville, Thibodaux and Winnsboro.

Budget and tort reform pass in session's final hours

Louisiana legislators on Tuesday ended their special session with a new state budget, just in time for the new fiscal year, and a deal to overhaul the state’s civil justice system.
Democratic Gov. John Bel Edwards, who vetoed Republican-backed legal system changes passed during this year’s regular session, said he would sign the new version.
The $35.2 billion spending plan uses federal aid to make up for a revenue shortfall caused by the COVID-19 pandemic and the economic restrictions imposed to control the spread. On paper, the budget spends billions more than last year’s, though lawmakers say that’s misleading because federal dollars are counted twice.
House Appropriations Chairman Jerome Zeringue said the spending plan is basically a “standstill” budget, though lawmakers trimmed $24 million from departments across state government. Lawmakers also held off on spending $58 million for planned raises for state government workers, saying it would send the wrong message when so many private sector workers are unemployed.
Louisiana’s state constitution requires lawmakers to pass a balanced budget before the fiscal year begins July 1. Tuesday was their last chance to finish that work after failing to do so during the pandemic-shortened regular session that ended June 1.
Unlike most years, when the major spending bills are not approved until the final moments, lawmakers approved the state operating budget with two hours to spare before the 6 p.m. deadline.
“It was a daunting task,” said Sen. Bodi White, the Senate’s finance chairman.
Edwards said the budget, while not ideal, is “workable,” suggesting it was about the best that could be hoped for under the circumstances.
Legislators rely on Revenue Estimating Conference projections to decide how much money they expect to be able to spend. It’s always an inexact science, made even more difficult this year by COVID-related uncertainty. Many lawmakers expect to return in late summer or early fall to deal with a revenue shortfall or to decide what to do with a new allocation of federal aid.
Legislators during the regular session passed a package of changes meant to overhaul how the state’s court system handles injury claims, particularly from automobile accidents. Many Republicans and business lobbyists believe the current system favors plaintiffs and causes high automobile insurance rates, particularly for the commercial market.
But Edwards vetoed the bill, saying there was no evidence it would lead to cheaper insurance. Many Democrats argued the changes were designed to rig the system against average citizens going against big businesses and insurance companies.
While several bills seeking to reform the civil justice system circulated this year, it was House Bill 57 by House Speaker Clay Schexnayder that achieved final passage. It would reduce the amount of money at stake needed to trigger the right to a jury trial from $50,000, the highest in the nation by far, to $10,000.
Louisiana plaintiffs would retain the right to sue an insurer directly, which has been a point of contention. Some lawmakers argued knowing an insurance company will pay the plaintiff’s damages makes juries more likely to side with plaintiffs.
But in most cases under House Bill 57, juries would never learn the insurer’s identity, though they would hear if the defendant had insurance at the opening and closing of the trial. The bill also allows courts to consider whether a plaintiff’s failure to wear a seat belt contributed to their injuries.
Lawmakers amended HB 57 Tuesday to establish a “collateral source” rule in Louisiana law, which is meant to ensure plaintiffs are only compensated for medical damages either paid or owed, as opposed to the “sticker price” of a procedure, which might be much higher. The goal is to let defendants and insurers avoid paying for “phantom injuries,” supporters say.
However, if there is a difference between the amount billed and the amount paid, judges would have the discretion to award the plaintiff up to 40 percent of the savings, explained Rep. John Stefanski, a Crowley Republican.
“I think [the bill] represents a real compromise,” Edwards said.
The legislation does not include measures sought by Democrats, such as a mandate for insurance companies to lower rates or an expiration date if rates don’t go down. Rep. Denise Marcelle, a Baton Rouge Democrat, said she was willing to vote for the bill but urged her colleagues to come back to the table in future sessions if rates don’t go down.
“I’m worried that this is really going to delay justice,” said Rep. Robby Carter, an Amite Democrat who said a lower jury trial threshold could clog the courts system.
Rep. Jack McFarland, a Winnfield Republican, said the changes, particularly the collateral source rule, would benefit small commercial transport companies whose businesses are threatened by skyrocketing rates.
“I think we found a sweet spot that is going to have an effect [on rates],” he said.

THEODORE 'TED' JOSEPH NEWPORT

September 11, 1919 — June 29, 2020
Theodore “Ted” Joseph Newport was born in New Orleans, Louisiana on September 11, 1919 and passed away from natural causes on June 29, 2020.
A former Berwick resident, he was a graduate of Morgan City High School and Woodbury Business College in Los Angeles, California.
Ted was a World War II Veteran and served as a fighter pilot in the U.S. Army Air Corps. He was honorably discharged with the rank of First Lieutenant. He is a life member of the Military Officers Association of America, and a member of American Legion Post No. 14 in Shreveport.
He was a member of St. Joseph Catholic Church where he served as Usher for many years until his move to the Savannah at the Oaks five years ago.
He was preceded in death by his parents, and wife of 65 years, Yvonne.
Our father was a kind and loving man who loved his family and had a wild sense of humor. He is survived by his son, Gary Newport (Bonita) and his daughter, Vicki Franks (Rob) and his grandchildren, Todd Muslow (Leah) and Audra Hicks (Alan) and Lindsay and Morgan Newport. He is also survived by his four great-grandchildren, Grant, Ben and Luke Muslow and Elias Hicks, and his sister-in-law, Patti Putney of Vincennes, Illinois and numerous nieces and nephews.
The family would like to thank Dr. and Mrs. Pete Blanchard who took care of our father for over 40 years. We would also like to thank Janice Latvala, Manager of the Savannah at the Oaks, Julie Angel, Concierge at the Savannah at the Oaks, the Nursing Staff and his caregivers, Gwen, Bridget and Sharonda for the love and care shown to our father during his years as a resident and especially during his final days.
Ted’s Visitation will begin on Thursday July 2 at noon in the Chapel at Centuries Memorial Funeral Home. A Funeral Service will be held at 1 p.m. Following the service will be a graveside in Centuries Memorial Park.
His pallbearers are Mr. Bob Going, Mr. Bud Bruce, Judge Stephen Calloway, Mr. Oscar Draughn, his grandson, Mr. Todd Muslow and three great-grandsons, Grant, Ben and Luke Muslow.
In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the Catholic Charities of North Louisiana, 331 E 71st Street, Shreveport, LA, 71106.
Centuries Memorial Funeral Home & Cemetery of Shreveport is in charge of arrangements.

Wheel House for July 1

SACRED HEART
Thrift Store, corner of South Railroad Avenue and Second Street, Morgan City, reopens July 8. Hours: 8-11 a.m. Wednesdays and Thursdays. All customers urged to wear masks.

VFW BINGO
VFW Post 4222 bingo will stay closed until Louisiana goes to Phase 3 of the COVID-19 guidelines.

Police: Driver in hit and run didn't have license

Police say an Amelia man was driving without a license when he was responsible for a hit and run Monday.
—Willebaldo Flores,35, Lennys Lane, at 7:08 p.m. Monday on charges of hit and run, careless operation and no driver’s license.
Morgan City officers were called to the area of Roderick Street and Wytchwood Drive to investigate a hit and run crash.
During the investigation, officers learned the registered owner lived on Lennys Lane in Amelia. A deputy with the St. Mary Sheriff’s Office was able to locate the vehicle and driver on Lennys Lane.
The driver was identified as Flores. A computer check revealed he did not have a valid driver’s license. He was placed under arrest and transported to the Morgan City Police Department for booking and incarceration.
Morgan City Police Chief James F. Blair also reported these arrests:
—Alita M. Tabb, 20, Deslinges Road, Charenton, was arrested 9:42 a.m. Monday on a charge of criminal damage to property over $1,000.
Tabb damaged property while incarcerated in the Morgan City Police Department. She was arrested and booked for criminal damage to property.
—Stephan Dardar, 32, Bourbon Street, New Orleans, was arrested at 1:46 a.m. Tuesday on a charge of criminal damage to property.
Officers were called to a Railroad Avenue address for a criminal damage to property complaint. They learned Dardar had damaged property at the address. Officers located Dardar walking in the area of La. 182 and Myrtle Street. He was placed under arrest and transported to the Morgan City Police Department for booking and incarceration
St. Mary Parish Sheriff Blaise Smith reported these arrests:
—Angie M. Talbert, 38, Watson Lane, Patterson, was at 7:28 a.m. Monday on a charge of leash law violation. Talbert was released on a summons to appear Sept. 24.
—Kient M. Martin, 30, Myra Street, Franklin, was arrested at 10:19 a.m. Monday on two warrants for failure to appear on the charges of possession of marijuana, possession of drug paraphernalia and cyberstalking. Bond was set at $7,000.
—Darrius Lucas, 19, Hemlock, Patterson, was arrested at 3:09 p.m. Monday on a charge of hit and run. Lucas was released on a summons to appear Sept. 24.
—Ti’Jia McCurtis, 18, Oneal Chube, Franklin, was arrested at 1:56 a.m. Tuesday on a charge of no driver’s license. McCurtis was released on a summons to appear Sept. 24.
—Terrance M. Robinson, 23, Seventh Street, Franklin, was arrested by the Narcotics Section at 10:52 p.m. Monday on charges of two headlights required, general speed law, possession with intent to distribute marijuana, possession of drug paraphernalia, possession of a firearm in the presence of a controlled dangerous substance and transactions involving drug proceeds.
Bond was set at $15,000.
Assumption Parish Sheriff Leland Falcon reported these arrests:
—Alexandra Amanda Brown, 49, Elaine Street, Bayou L’Ourse was arrested Saturday on charges of possession of marijuana, possession of methamphetamine, possession of drug paraphernalia, taking contraband into a penal institution and obstruction of justice.
—Shauntell Nicole Hartdegen, 37, Elaine Street, Bayou, L’Ourse, was arrested Saturday on charges of flight from an officer, driving under suspension and careless operation of a motor vehicle.
Deputies on assignment observed a vehicle commit a traffic violation in the Aristotle Road area. Deputies proceeded to stop the vehicle, but the driver, later identified Hartdegen, continued until arriving at her Elaine Street address.
Deputies made contact with the driver as well as the passenger, now identified as Brown.
Deputies noted both to be acting in a manner suspicious of illegal drug activity. Based on the two occupant’s continuous suspicious activity, deputies obtained a consent to search the vehicle. During that process, deputies seized a quantity of suspected marijuana and assorted paraphernalia.
Both suspects were arrested and transported to the Assumption Parish Detention Center for booking.
Upon arrival at the facility, it was determined that Brown had taken a quantity of methamphetamine into the booking area.
Hartdegen was released on a $5,000 bond.
Brown remains incarcerated with a bond set at $25,000.
—Marlon Denell North, 31, La. 943, Donaldsonville, was arrested Saturday on charges of possession of methamphetamine, possession of alcoholic beverages in a motor vehicle, disregarding a traffic signal, possession of drug paraphernalia and no driver’s license on person.
A vehicle was observed failing to stop for the red light at La. 1 and Franklin Street Bridge, and deputies conducted a stop of that vehicle.
Upon making contact with the driver, now identified as North, it was noted that he did not possess a driver’s license on his person.
The deputy conducted a walk-around of the vehicle and noted the presence of alcoholic beverages. The deputy also noted, visually, the presence of methamphetamine.
Marlon Denell North was arrested and booked into the Assumption Parish Detention Center. Bond was set at $10,300.
—Scott Joseph Mayon, 49, Hebert Lane, Morgan City, was arrested Sunday on a Louisiana Department of Corrections warrant for probation-parole violation.
An I.C.E. Unit deputy, on special assignment, observed an eastbound vehicle commit a traffic violation on La. 662 in Bayou L’Ourse.
The deputy initiated a stop of the vehicle and made contact with the driver now identified as Mayon. Mayon provided a Louisiana identification card to the deputy.
The deputy conducted a routine computer inquiry on Scott Joseph Mayon and received a National Crime Information Center warrant for a probation-parole violation for the state of Louisiana.
Mayon was arrested and booked into the Assumption Parish Detention Center without bond.

Morgan City police radio logs for June 29-30

The following are the radio dispatch logs from the Morgan City Police Department. To report unlawful or suspicious activity, call the police department at 985-380-4605.
Monday, June 29
5:43 a.m. 900 block of Chestnut Drive; Medical.
7:45 a.m. 500 block of Front Street; Medical.
7:54 a.m. 400 block of Fifth Street; Disturbance.
8:01 a.m. Florence Street; Animal.
10:15 a.m. 1000 block of Brashear Avenue; Medical.
10:53 a.m. Second and Adams streets; Complaint.
11:37 a.m. 400 block of Aucoin Street; Theft.
11:41 a.m. 200 block of Fourth Street; Patrol.
11:49 a.m. 6400 block of La. 182; Complaint.
12:51 p.m. Sixth and Louisiana streets; Disturbance.
1:14 p.m. 300 block of Patton Street; Complaint.
2:36 p.m. 6000 block of La. 182; Accident.
Tuesday, June 30
1:19 a.m. 1400 block of Railroad Avenue; Arrest.
1:33 a.m. Front and Belanger streets; Suspicious subject.
1:56 a.m. 2000 block of Allison Street; Civil.
2:16 a.m. 1000 block of Marguerite Street; Complaint.
4:01 a.m. 1100 block of Marguerite Street; Disturbance.

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