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Wife reflects on long marriage to alcoholic

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 39 years to a kind, supportive and loving man. We are both retired. He stays fit with daily exercise, reads, keeps track of our financials and is fun to be with. However, he’s a high-functioning alcoholic. His personality bends to unsavory during most of the evening hours. He will never go to counseling, and support groups for me are not close by.
He was always the breadwinner and provided a good income for our family. He was also a good father to our two sons. (I suspect that our 34-year-old son may also be an alcoholic.) Over the years, I have gone from compassionate to furious about my husband’s drinking. He often hides how much he consumes. I never know if it’s just the two to three nightly beers or the hidden bottle of wine or whiskey in the trash. I recently discovered he also has been smoking pot.
I used to be a social person. We have the opportunity to travel, but it was disastrous in the past. How should a wife deal with an alcoholic in the home?
OVERWHELMED IN FLORIDA

DEAR OVERWHELMED: You can’t fix your husband. Only he can do that IF he’s motivated. A spouse like you should join a support group for the families of alcoholics. If one isn’t geographically convenient, understand that meetings are also offered online and can provide help and support.
Consider asserting some independence and stop allowing your husband’s problem to isolate you. Pursue some of your own interests. Because you would like to travel, join a group and go without him. It could provide a much-needed break from the stress you are experiencing.
I hope you realize that at some point you will have to decide whether you are willing to spend the rest of your life hunkered down to avoid the nastiness of a belligerent drunk every evening. If not, you can talk to a lawyer about a separation. But that may be a discussion for another day.

DEAR ABBY: I had a very good relationship with my daughter-in-law. In fact, I treated her like my own daughter and showered her with gifts. People told me she’d been gossiping about me and saying how much she dislikes me. I feel betrayed, so I have distanced myself from her and no longer want her near me.
AM I a vindictive mother-in-law? I love my grandson, but I need my privacy, too.
What will I do during holidays when family needs to get together? I no longer trust her, and I cannot wear a fake smile. Am I overreacting?
DISILLUSIONED IN THE WEST

DEAR DISILLUSIONED: If what you were told about your daughter-in-law is true, you are not overreacting.
However, you won’t know if the information is accurate or in what context something may have been said until you have been told by HER.
This is why you need to have a face-to-face conversation in which you ask directly if what you heard was true and if you have done something that upset her. Then listen.
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UPDATED WITH STORY: Lieutenant governor kicks off Cajun Coast's Shrimply Delicious Food Trail

St. Mary Parish Councilman Patrick Hebert has an idea.

At Tuesday’s Berwick Town Council meeting, Hebert noted that the La. 182 bridge has a hump-shaped superstructure, a bit like the curved back of a shrimp.

And because the bridge is due for a three-year rehabilitation, Hebert mused, why not paint the bridge to look like shrimp? He said he would bring up the idea with Lt. Gov. Billy Nungesser.

As it happened, Nungesser was in Morgan City on Wednesday. He talked with Hebert. A quick question for the lieutenant governor in passing: Did Hebert mention the bridge?

“I’m going to see what I can do,” Nungesser said.

In the meantime, Cajun Coast celebrated St. Mary’s favorite seafood in a more immediately tangible way — tangible as in peel and eat. At the Morgan City visitor center Wednesday, the parish tourist authority launched the Shrimply Delicious Food Trail, a promotion for local tourism, restaurants and Louisiana’s beleaguered shrimp industry.

Somewhere between the music of Johnny Chauvin and the boiled shrimp, participants heard about the trail, which consists of 38 restaurants, from Jeanerette to Amelia, at which customers will be encouraged to order shrimp dishes.

Collect five receipts, and you can get a free Shrimply Delicious T-shirt.

You can find a list of participating restaurants at www.cajuncoast.com/shrimptrail.

Wednesday’s Shrimply Delicious event coincided with National Travel and Tourism Week and National Shrimp Day.

Nungesser, who said his first job was in his parents’ shrimp factory in Algiers, clowned around with Chauvin, pretending to play the accordion although he doesn’t really, and
his wife kicks him when he tries to sing in church.

But he had a serious purpose: promoting Louisiana’s tourism opportunities.

“I’m traveling the state, trying to get us back to the record number of tourists we had before COVID,” Nungesser said. “I listen to the people about what it takes.”

According to Doug Bourgeois, assistant secretary for tourism, tourism numbers were up 4% last year to 43 million.

Along with the music and the food, there was a plea.

Parish Councilman Rodney Olander of Franklin has been a commercial fisherman for 45 years, and he sits on a state shrimp industry task force.

Olander said he’d rather have been shrimping Wednesday. But he wasn’t, because he couldn’t make money on his catch. And he can’t make money because imported shrimp are flooding the market.

“We don’t have a market for our shrimp,” Olander said.

The number of licensed shrimpers has fallen from 10,000 to 4,000 in 20 years, Olander said.

“The industry needs the help,” he said.

Two drug arrests reported by Morgan City police, parish deputies

(Editor’s note: The charges listed here and the narratives that go with them are provided by the police agencies that made the arrests. Guilt or innocence has not been determined in court.)

Morgan City and St. Mary authorities reported arrests on drug charges Tuesday.

Morgan City

Chief Chad M. Adams reported that the Morgan City Police Department responded to 48 calls for service over the last 24-hour reporting period and made these arrests:

--Damon Maurice Allen, 52, Park Street, Patterson, was arrested at 10:19 p.m. Tuesday on charges of possession of methamphetamine, possession of drug paraphernalia and obstruction of justice.

--Vilitris Benjamin Autin Gibbs, 30, Diane Drive, Morgan City, was arrested at 11:19 p.m. Tuesday as a fugitive from the Assumption Parish Sheriff’s Office.

--Renetta Hawkins, 60, Verdun Lane, Franklin, was arrested at 3:32 p.m. Monday on a charge of simple battery.

St. Mary

Sheriff Blaise Smith reported that over the last 24-hour reporting period, the Sheriff’s Office responded to 38 complaints and made these arrests:

--Thomas Christopher Thompson, 49, Berwick, was arrested at 2:52 p.m. Tuesday on a warrant alleging failure to appear on acharge of criminal neglect of family. Thompson was also named in two MCPD warrants alleging failure to appear. Bail was set at $7,892 for the St. Mary Parish warrant.

--Michael Wayne Gray Jr., 47, Franklin, was arrested at 8:52 a.m. Tuesday on charges of possession with intent to distribute Schedule IV drugs, possession with intent to distribute a Schedule I drug, possession of cocaine and improper lane usage.

Bail has not been set at this time.

Franklin

Chief Cedric Handy reported that the Franklin Police Department responded to eight complaints over the last 24-hour reporting period and made this arrest:

--Deondric Butler, 27, Ninth Street, Franklin, was arrested at 12:33 p.m. Tuesday on a warrant dated May 5 alleging unlawful posting of criminal activity for notoriety and publicity and two counts of aggravated battery.

Butler was booked, processed and held with no bond set at the time of press release.

Grant will pay for trash receptacles in Morgan City

Keep St. Mary Beautiful, in partnership with the Morgan City government, has been selected as one of the 98 recipients of the 2023 Keep Louisiana Beautiful trash receptacle grant program.

These grants were made possible with funding from the Louisiana state government and the Office of the Lieutenant Governor. According to Lea Hebert, chairperson for Keep St. Mary Beautiful, 10 trash receptacles will be installed in high-traffic and high-pedestrian areas around Morgan City.

St. Mary Parish has an ongoing cleanup campaign throughout the year and works with high schools, churches, groups and the parish DA office on litter abatement and cleanup projects.

Through the 2023 trash receptacle grant program, Keep Louisiana Beautiful distributed 879 receptacles to 98 organizations in 40 Louisiana parishes.

As part of the requirements of this grant, Keep St. Mary Beautiful will perform a post installation litter scan and compare the data collected to preliminary scan results. Data will be shared with the public once available.

“The efforts of Keep St. Mary Beautiful have had a significant impact in showing the beauty of our resilient community and the readiness there for the increase tourism that will come with the designation of being a national estuarine research reserve,” said Dr. Monica Mancuso, St. Mary Excel.

Wheel House for May 10: Summer Day Camp

DAY CAMP
Morgan City Recreation Department Summer Day Camp registration accepted for children ages 6 (by May 1) to 12 (will not turn 13 until after July 31). Cost: $200 per 2-week session. Sessions: 8 a.m.-5 p.m. Mondays-Fridays, June 12-23; June 26-July 7 (no camp July 4); and July 10-21. Must provide a birth certificate. Lunch provided. Registration forms at MCRD, 915 Everett St., 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. weekdays, closed 12:30-1:30 p.m. for lunch.

New Berwick library branch unveiled

Local officials took part in an April 27 ribbon-cutting for the St. Mary Parish library system's new Berwick branch. The 8,100-square-foot, $3 million structure features an eye-catching glass entryway; a multipurpose room; a client room for quiet reading away from library traffic; and other amenities. The speakers included Parish President David Hanagriff, Berwick Mayor Duval Arthur, library consultant Rebecca Hamilton and St. Mary Parish Library Director Julie Champagne Culler. TOP PHOTO: MIDDLE PHOTO: The Rev. Sal Istre of St. Stephen Catholic Church delivers the opening prayer. BOTTOM PHOTO: Attendees tour the new library branch.

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SLCC commencement set for Thursday

South Louisiana Community College will host its Spring 2023 Graduation Ceremony at 10 a.m. Thursday at Lafayette’s Cajundome.

Nearly 600 graduates will walk across the stage having earned an associate degree, technical diploma, certificate of technical studies or high school equivalency diploma.

These students from across Acadiana will be entering the workforce or transferring to regional universities to continue their educational journey.

The spring 2023 graduates represent a diverse group of students who have completed a range of programs offered by SLCC, including studies in business, information technology, technical studies, liberal arts and humanities, nursing and allied health, STEM, transportation, and energy, and adult basic education.

“Graduation is a significant milestone in our students’ lives, and it is an honor to celebrate their accomplishments with them,” says Dr. Vincent June, chancellor of SLCC. “We are incredibly proud of our graduates and the hard work they have put in to achieve this momentous occasion. We see graduation as a beginning, for our graduates, and for our community.”

The commencement will be emceed by SLCC Foundation Vice President Gregory Daigle, partner and financial advisor of Pinnacle Group. The graduates will be addressed by Blaise Zuschlag, executive vice [resident of Acadian Companies, and student speaker Timothy Stroud.

The public is invited to attend and also encouraged to visit the SLCC website to stream the ceremony online. Viewers can connect by visiting www.solacc.edu.
 

Nicholls students get their diplomas Saturday

The Nicholls Spring 2023 Commencement Ceremonies are set for Saturday at Stopher Gymnasium. Each session will feature all degree program candidates from two of the six colleges and a keynote speaker. 

Session I begins at 9 a.m. and features the College of Education and Behavioral Sciences and the College of Nursing. The keynote speaker is Judge Blair Edwards, a judge in the 21st District Court serving the Tangipahoa, St. Helena and Livingston parishes. She works exclusively in juvenile courts, including drugs and truancy issues. 

Edwards is a member of several state legal groups, including the Louisiana Children and Family Court Judges Association, and has served on the Louisiana Sentencing Commission, examining whether prison time served is fair and given out equitably across the state. She attended Loyola University for law school and Nicholls for her Bachelor of Science in accounting. 

Session II at noon will feature the College of Liberal Arts and Chef John Folse Culinary Institute. The keynote speaker is Marcelle Bienvenu, former culinary professor, cookbook author and food writer who has prepared Cajun and Creole dishes since the 1960s. She owned and operated a restaurant, Chez Marcelle, near Lafayette in the early 1980s and has worked at several restaurants, including Commander’s Palace and K-Paul’s Louisiana Kitchen in New Orleans. 

She is the author of three books and wrote a weekly food column “Creole Cooking” for the Times Picayune of New Orleans for over 30 years. Sje has co-authored 12 books, including several books with renowned chef Emeril Lagasse and a cookbook published after Hurricane Katrina titled “Cooking Up a Storm: Recipes Lost and Found from the Times-Picayune,” which was nominated for a prestigious James Beard Award. 

Session III begins at 3 p.m. and features the College of Business Administration and College of Sciences and Technology. The keynote speaker is state Rep. Joseph A. Orgeron, Ph.D., who is also executive director of Restore or Retreat. 

Orgeron’s family counts itself among the original Cajun mariners who helped develop the offshore oil and gas industry. In the 1960s, his father started a company called Montco that Orgeron and his brother eventually took over, building boats essential to the offshore oil business, including some of the first lift boats. 

Orgeron is working towards making Louisiana a leader in the renewable energy sector, building a pair of proprietary vessels dubbed “SuperFeeders” that would ferry enormous wind farm components from the dock to their offshore locations for installation. 

Orgeron has a variety of experience ranging from operation management, offshore energy and wind, data analytics, machine learning, neural network modeling, IT strategy and more.

He holds a Bachelor of Applied Science in Physics from Nicholls, a Master’s in Experimental High Energy Physics from the University of Texas at Dallas and a Ph.D. from UT Dallas.

Jim Bradshaw: La. fought tidelands battle for half a century

The fight between Louisiana and the federal government had been going on for 16 years when Congress passed “historic” legislation in May 1953 to “restore to the state land that was taken away from it by decisions of the Supreme Court.”

The land in question was beneath the Gulf of Mexico. Nobody much cared about it until the 1940s, when it began to dawn on folks that there was oil beneath that soggy bottom.

In fact, the U.S. government had no objection in 1938 when the state claimed everything out to the edge of the Continental Shelf — the shallow seabed that in some parts reaches a hundred miles or more from shore.

But it didn’t take long for the federal government to realize there were millions and millions of barrels of oil beneath the Gulf, meaning millions and millions of dollars in potential taxes. That’s why the feds went to the Supreme Court to claim that coastal waters belonged to the national government, not the state.

Louisiana argued it had always exercised “continuous, undisturbed, and unchallenged sovereignty” over the seabed. But the court agreed with the feds, touching off a decades-long legal fight, known generally as the Tidelands Dispute.

The Submerged Lands Act that was passed in May 1953 was supposed to undo what the courts had done.

It gave coastal states jurisdiction for three miles from their coastlines, but that raised as many issues as it solved. Nobody was sure about where to start measuring the three miles.

The New York Times predicted, correctly, that “because of the state’s extremely irregular shoreline, it may take … years to determine just where the three mile … boundary of the state actually lies.”

That was just about the time that Jack P. F. Gremillion was hand-picked by Earl Long to become attorney general. He stayed in office for 16 years and is probably best remembered for opposing desegregation and for the fact that his tenure ended with an indictment for fraud and conspiracy. A jury found him not guilty of those charges, but he was then convicted on five counts of lying to the grand jury that indicted him.  

Despite his other views and Long’s claim that “if you want to hide something from Jack Gremillion, put it in a law book,” Gremillion did serious battle over the tidelands. He put together an impressive team of legal scholars and they put together a series of lawsuits raising a list of constitutional issues — none of which were successful.
Gremillion tried another route. In 1956, he took his argument to the friendlier state, not federal, court, and got a restraining order to keep the federal government from leasing offshore land. Gremillion argued there was a conspiracy between the U.S. Department of Interior and oil companies “to usurp and illegally ‘grab’ lands and revenues belonging to the state.”

That finally led to an agreement between the state and federal governments to allow oil drilling, but to hold the lease money and taxes in escrow until a ruling by the Supreme Court on who owned the land. The court, once again, gave the federal government the land that it claimed, and, more importantly, gave it most of the money.
Louisiana finally won a small battle several years later over where the shoreline began, and with the declaration that coastal erosion did not also erode away state land. But there was still a money issue to solve, this one over how much of the interest from the money that had been put aside belonged to the state.

That legal battle dragged on for years more, often to the frustration of Billy Guste, the attorney general who picked up the battle.

In 1980, the court made a tangled ruling that Louisiana did own the money that had been held for it, but somehow did not own the interest on it.

That’s how things stood until one day when Gary Keyser, the assistant who led the tidelands fight during the Guste administration, came across a federal rule actually meant to deal with drilling on federal land in the western U.S. It provided that states should get a “fair and equitable” part of the proceeds from mineral production on public land.

Louisiana pounced on that with a new lawsuit that was settled out of court in 1986.

It gave the state $540 million in reparation for past federal action, and provided that Louisiana would get 27% of the annual revenue from a part of the Gulf outside the three-mile limit designated the “8(g) area,” referring to the part of the rule that gives some money to the states.

Since then, the state has invested the so-called 8(g) money in a Louisiana Education Quality Trust Fund that has provided hundreds of millions in grants to Louisiana schools.

It only took 50 years to get things more or less right.

You can contact Jim Bradshaw at jimbradshaw4321@gmail.com or P.O. Box 1121, Washington LA 70589.

Morgan City police radio logs for May 9-10

The following are the radio dispatch logs from the Morgan City Police Department. To report unlawful or suspicious activity, call the Police Department at 985-380-4605.
Tuesday, May 9
7:27 a.m. Franklin and Cedar streets; Juvenile complaint.
8:01 a.m. 500 block of Terrebonne Street; Removal of subject.
8:04 a.m. 3100 block of Susan Drive; Medical.
8:33 a.m. 900 block of Marguerite Street; Arrest.
9:10 a.m. 1800 block of Levee Road; Animal complaint.
9:45 a.m. 600 block of Grove Street; Animal complaint.
9:52 a.m. 100 block of Wren Street; Medical.
10:20 a.m. 100 block of Glenwood Street; Animal complaint.
10:41 a.m. 300 block of Wren Street; Complaint.
11:15 a.m. 100 block of Wren Street; Complaint.
12:01 p.m. 900 block of Marguerite Street; Juvenile complaint.
1:21 p.m. 300 block of Wren Street; Theft.
1:38 p.m. 700 block of Myrtle Street; Animal complaint.
1:51 p.m. 1100 block of Seventh Street; 911 hang up.
3:12 p.m. 2400 block of Apple Street; Juvenile complaint.
3:14 p.m. 6400 block of La. 182; Lost and found.
3:44 p.m. 700 block of Everett Street; Complaint.
4:03 p.m. U.S. 90 East; Traffic incident.
4:49 p.m. 600 block of Seventh Street; Juvenile complaint.
4:51 p.m. 700 block of Belanger Street; Medical.
5:15 p.m. 2300 block of Cypress Street; Complaint.
6:39 p.m. 800 block of Levee Road; Vehicle burglary.
7:08 p.m. Area of Sixth/Duke streets; Complaint.
7:16 p.m. Area of Front Street/Brashear Avenue; Complaint.
7:29 p.m. 1400 block of Federal Avenue; Suspicious person/vehicle.
7:40 p.m. 700 block of Belanger Street; Complaint.
8:41 p.m. 700 block of Terrebonne Street; Complaint.
8:45 p.m. 1500 block of Sandra Street; Opened door.
8:49 p.m. Area of Egle/Sixth streets; Suspicious person/vehicle.
9:21 p.m. Area of Federal Avenue/Ellzey Street; Suspicious person/vehicle.
9:57 p.m. Area of Bowman/Second streets; Suspicious person/vehicle.
10:07 p.m. Area of Allison Street; Suspicious person/vehicle.
10:37 p.m. 3000 block of Diane Drive; Warrants.
11 p.m. 400 block of Adams Street; Medical.
11:06 p.m. 2300 block of La. 70; Complaint.
Wednesday, May 10
12:17 a.m. 2400 block of Pecan Street; Medical.

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