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Dear Abby: Gay man hurt by family's hateful posts

DEAR ABBY: I am a gay man who has been with my husband for more than 30 years. He’s from a different culture, as are our now-grown adopted children. Most of my family members are religiously and politically conservative. They have known I was gay since I was in my 20s and almost always accepted us, but they are often critical of differences in race and culture. I struggled with this situation emotionally for decades and have had professional counseling.
With my parents now gone, I have attempted to maintain a connection and polite relationship with my siblings and other relatives, but during these politically charged times, I am finding it more and more difficult. During the past year, I have noticed some family members post anti-gay and anti-immigrant messages on social media. Some of them are so hateful and vile that I have quietly unfriended or unfollowed them. I am again hurt and disappointed and nearing a breaking point, and I’m not sure how to handle this further. Should I express my feelings now? Would a major confrontation serve any purpose or make a difference at this stage of life?
BREAKING POINT
IN TEXAS

DEAR BREAKING POINT: By all means, speak up and let these homophobic and xenophobic relatives know their posts have affected you. They should be made aware that words have consequences. Sometimes people need reminding that messages posted on social media can be hurtful to people they actually know. Having been subjected to those posts, it’s your privilege to refrain from exposing yourself further to the toxicity, and I endorse your decision.

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my boyfriend for nine wonderful years. He’s loving, loyal, funny and one of the best cooks I’ve ever known. We share our home with two small and terribly spoiled Yorkies who are the center of his world. So much so, in fact, that he cooks gourmet meals — FOR THEM. I’m not exaggerating.
Last week, the dogs had Wagyu steak with a drizzle of bone broth reduction. I dined on a turkey sandwich from the fridge that had expired two days earlier and a bag of potato chips. It’s not that I don’t love the dogs. I do. They’re family. But I’m starting to feel like the roommate who gets the leftovers while the VIPs dine on prime cuts. He treats me well in every other way. But Abby, is it too much to ask for equal steak rights in my own home?
SECOND TO THE YORKIES

DEAR SECOND: How do you know your boyfriend is a good cook if he only cooks for the Yorkies? Is it because they wag their tails as they wolf down their gourmet dinner? What does HE eat when he’s doing this? If you ate only an (expired) turkey sandwich because you weren’t offered anything better, open your yap and let him know you were so upset that you wrote to me — and be sure to read the comment section at DearAbby.com because I’m sure my online readers will have a lot to say about this.

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Jim Brown: Walker Percy's aspirations for Louisiana

Many readers who love Louisiana literature will gather this weekend in St. Francisville to celebrate the life and works of novelist Walker Percy. He was, to me, a literary icon who spent most of his life in Louisiana.
Many consider him to be America’s most significant Catholic writer. And he was passionate about Louisiana, so passionate that he took the time to give me some good advice about what he considered to be the insidious politics in the Bayou State.
I first heard about Dr. Percy (he was a psychiatrist by training) back in 1961 when I was an undergraduate at the University of North Carolina. I was writing a weekly column for the student newspaper, The Daily Tar Heel. Percy was a Carolina graduate, and had also written regular columns for the Tar Heel back in the late 1930s. His first novel, “The Moviegoer,” had just won the National Book award, and there was a lot of buzz about him in Chapel Hill.
One of the amusing stories that circulated around the English Department at Carolina was about Percy taking his freshman English placement test. He had just read Faulkner’s “The Sound and the Fury,” and wrote his entire essay in one long paragraph without punctuation. He was promptly placed into a class for slow learners and was told that he needed a lot of help to pass English composition.
The Moviegoer was set in New Orleans, a place I had never visited. Percy’s descriptions of the French Quarter, Mardi Gras, and the streets of the Crescent City were enchanting to me, and one of the reasons I decided to attend Tulane Law School.
One of my courses in constitutional law was taught by Professor Billups Percy, Dr. Percy’s brother.
His uncle, Will Percy, had written an important history titled “Lanterns on the Levee,” a memorial to the South of his youth and young manhood, where he describes life in the Mississippi Delta. The introduction was written by Walker Percy.
I went on to read all of Percy’ novels. His main characters are “seekers” who struggle with an existential crisis in their lives. They habitually search for God with varying success, and often look for some form of redemption. He writes how he personally found redemption in the Catholic Church.
I had never met Dr. Percy until receiving a phone call in 1987. At the time, I was serving as secretary of state, and was running for governor. I had written a 180-page plan I called The Brown Papers, my vision of how Louisiana could prosper in future years.
Few people read it.
One spring day, my secretary buzzed that I had a phone call from someone named Walker Percy.
I assumed it was someone with the same name.
When I returned the call, Dr. Percy told me he was some obscure writer from Covington, and he was impressed with my plan.
Would I have time, if I were in the area, to come by for coffee and a chat? Would I have time? I drove over to his home the next afternoon.
We talked late into the evening, sharing ideas about what Louisiana could be with all its natural resources and creative talent.
He told me what he had repeatedly written in a number of publications. “What happened? Louisiana is a state richer in mineral resources, the top gas producer in the country, possessed of the largest port, endowed with a natural wealth, which in its use might have been expected to yield manifold benefits for its people. But it’s marshes have been plundered and polluted, one of the highest cancer rates in the county and the loss of fifty square miles of wetlands yearly.”
He went on to lament that Louisiana should be much more than what he decried as “a slightly sleazy playground for tourists and conventioneers.”
He said he was still optimistic about the state’s future, that he was in my corner politically, and to call on him at any time. We visited on one other occasion in Covington, and exchanged a number of phone calls up until his death in 1990.
In one conversation before his death, he told me he didn’t consider himself to be a southern novelist, and did not want to be compared to William Faulkner.
He felt that Faulkner had this tragic sense of history, and that Percy wrote about the new South. And he was deeply concerned about the state’s future.
He was right on the money in so many things he wrote and said. Walker Percy would have been a pretty darn good Louisiana governor.
Peace and Justice
Jim Brown

Jim Brown’s syndicated column appears each week in numerous newspapers throughout the nation and on websites worldwide.  You can read all his past columns and see continuing updates at http://www.jimbrownusa.com.

Zeringue explains COLAB role in St. Mary economic development

Asked about St. Mary’s greatest advantage and disadvantage in economic development, Christy Zeringue gave the same answer twice.
“It’s the coast and the coast,” said Zeringue, president of the COLAB, the official regional economic development organization that includes St. Mary, Assumption, Lafourche and Terrebonne.
Zeringue spoke Wednesday at a St. Mary Chamber luncheon at the Petroleum Club of Morgan City.
The disadvantage of being on the Gulf is vulnerability to hurricanes and flooding, Zeringue said.
“Here we are in September, keeping our fingers crossed with hurricanes or floods we might have,” she said. “It’s also a little challenging when it comes to insurance in our area.”
The coastal advantage are great waterways and ports throughout the region.
Zeringue picked up a line from Port of Morgan City Executive Director Raymond “Mac” Wade. The local waterways are carrying cargo worth not millions, but billions.
The water figures in at least two economic development victories cited by Zeringue.
They include plans by Argent LNG to create a liquefied natural gas plant at Port Fourchon. The Argent website states it plans to begin operating in early 2030.
Another is the acquisition of the Franklin-area Gulf Craft shipyard earlier this year by Saronic. The Texas-based company plans to build its Marauder autonomous surface vessel there and employ as many as 500 people.
Across the Charenton Canal from the Saronic yard is Metal Shark, a shipbuilder with government work of its own, including ferries for Washington and New York and the recent delivery of coastal patrol boats to the Dominican navy.
Other advantages are a skilled workforce and higher education institutions, Zeringue said.
COLAB was once known as the Southeast Louisiana Economic Council. Zeringue described the mission as working with local economic development officials as well as with Louisiana Economic Development.
The priorities she outlined Wednesday:
—Working with the expansion of existing industries
—Workforce development.
—Developing more certified ready for new or expanding industry.
—Legislative priorities.
COLAB has a website rich in demographic and economic data at bayouregion.com.

Berwick High homecoming proclamation

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Mayor Duval Arthur recently signed a proclamation in honor of Berwick High's homecoming, which includes the Oct. 3 football game with Thrive Academy. Seated from left are Madison Izaguirre, Madison Comeaux, Baylee Smith, Arthur, Alayr Knope, Helaina Stansbury and Caroline Izaguirre. Middle row: Vintrell Boyd, Maddox Sampey, Carter Dupuis, Aidynn Lecompte, Vincent Dohmann, Miguel Melendez and Layf Bella. Back row: Maya Ladday, Isabell Ortiz, Landyn Lacoste, Makenzie Linn, Jordyn Gaudet and Leslie Ellis.

Patterson High homecoming week

Patterson High's Homecoming Week activities included a dress-up day. Other events included a wacky Olympics, a flag football game and a "Nerds and Smarties" day. The Lumberjack homecoming football game will be Friday against H.L Bourgeois.

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Infrastructure has impact on Morgan City budget

The Morgan City Council on Tuesday introduced a 2026 budget, a document on which federal funds and a natural gas system upgrade project have a big impact.
Also Tuesday, the council introduced ordinances forbidding the indoor use of barbecue grills and lower the charges for utility customers who want security lights.
The council proclaimed Senior Citizen Center Month and Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and approved plans for a long list of coming events.
The proposed 2026 budget anticipates revenue of about $61.3 million and spending of $60.5 million.
In his budget message, Mayor Lee Dragna said the revenue figure is $4.2 million lower than the 2025 budget.
“However, a considerable amount of grant monies that were expected to be received in 2025 in connection with the PHMSA Natural Gas Distribution Grant will not be received until 2026,” Dragna wrote.
The Pipeline and Hazardous Materials Safety Administration awarded a $7 million grant to the Morgan City government in 2023.
The biggest source of city revenue will be utility operations, anticipated to bring in $27.8 million, just less than $100,000 below the 2025 figure.
Anticipated tax revenue amounts to $10.9 million, up about $140,000 from this year’s budget.
Spending is budgeted at $60.5 million, which includes $14.9 million in capital outlay. That includes the gas line rehabilitation work, the bulk of which is expected to be done next year.
The city government employs 195 people full time and 31 part time. Those who have at least a year on the job will get a 2% raise at a cost to the city of $152,808.
A hotel occupancy tax that began in 2023 will bring in an estimated $188,595 for increasing tourism and economic developments.
The city government responded to rising insurance costs by self-insuring its property, and the budget set aside $300,000 for that purpose.
“It is our intention to present a budget that allows our city to maintain a level of service our citizens are accustomed to,” Dragna wrote.
Another ordinance introduced Tuesday, banning indoor use of barbecue grills, was introduced at the request of the Morgan City Fire Department. A second section, applying to dwellings other than one- or two-family homes, would prohibit grills from being “used, kindled or stored” on any balcony, under any overhang or within 10 feet of any structure.
The ordinance on security lights has a new range of charges for four LED wattages. The monthly charge for a 175-watt LED would drop from $4.25 to $3. For 1,000-watt LEDs, the charge would drop from $16.50 to $10.
Also Tuesday:
•The council changed its last two meeting dates of the year to Nov. 18 and Dec. 16 to avoid conflicts with the holiday season. Meetings are usually held each fourth Tuesday.
•The council proclaimed October to be Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Kelli Cantu of Chez Hope, the region’s domestic abuse assistance agency, said 2,100 people were helped in 2024 though shelter or other services.
•The council proclaimed September to be Senior Citizen Center Month. Council on Aging Director Beverly Domengeaux said the council operates centers in Franklin, Patterson and Morgan City. The council also offers meal delivery, homemaking help and respites for caregivers.
•The council approved plans for “an all-inclusive trunk or treat” 1-3 p.m. Oct. 19 at Lawrence Park. The event is designed to be “a fun, safe and sensory friendly celebration for children and families with special needs and their siblings.”
•St. Mary School Board member Lindsey Anslem is planning a prayer event for students and teachers at 5:30 p.m. Oct. 13 at Lawrence Park.
•The council approved plans for a rodeo at Atchafalaya Bit & Bridge Club on Saturday, pending a Police Department OK for alcohol sales. The slack, or preliminary competition, begins at 10 a.m. The performance begins at 7:30 p.m.
•The council gave the green light to the Pumpkin Patch activities at the Petting Zoo and Morgan City Municipal Auditorium. The event is a St. Mary Outreach-United Way fundraiser in the form of field trips that include pumpkin decorating, feeding the farm animals, relay games and cookie decorating.

Sign of the times: Kirk tribute draws some local criticism

A tribute to slain right-wing influencer Charlie Kirk kicked up a social media storm locally. And at Tuesday’s Morgan City Council meeting, two African American residents said they were offended by the gesture.
At issue is a sign at the Morgan City seawall memorializing Kirk with a single word: “Charlie.” Mayor Lee Dragna said the sign was up over the course of a week.
The death of Kirk, who was shot and killed Sept. 10 at an appearance at a Utah university, has illuminated a deep political division. For many, Kirk, 31, was an outspoken Christian who promoted free speech and open debate, and who attracted young people, including African Americans, to the conservative cause.
For others, Kirk accepted gun deaths as the cost of the Second Amendment, attacked gay and transgender rights, and made racially insensitive remarks about Blacks and Black leaders, including Martin Luther King Jr.
Crowd estimates fo ra Sunday memorial in Glendale, Arizona, ranged up toe 200,000.
“As a Black man, I was offended,” said Mike Ruffin at Tuesday’s City Council meeting.
Interestingly, Ruffin and some of the Facebook posts expressed not just about the Charlie sign but with the way the sign portrays Morgan City.
“People were spewing hate that really doesn’t exist in this city,” he said.
Another speaker, Wilbert Turner, said that it’s up to the “leadership to say something to those who were offended.”
And “just knowing it was up there offended me,” Turner said.
Dragna repeatedly described the sign as “discreet.”
“It was put in the most discreet way possible for a man who was executed — not murdered, executed — and left two children and a wife,” Dragna said.
He defended the posting of a sign that he said represents the feelings of a majority of the community. And “we just got pounded on Facebook,” often with comments that were “twisted in a way to show hate.”
Councilman the Rev. Ron Bias said the lighted sign is off now.
“We just need to make an order in this community that if we’ve got a problem, we can sit down and work it out,” Bias said. “That’s the main thing.”

Early voting on tax renewal begins Saturday

Early voting for the Oct. 11 election opens Saturday with a School Board sales tax renewal on the ballot.
Early voting will run Saturday through Oct. 4, excluding Sunday. The hours are 8:30 a.m.-6 p.m. Registered voters can cast early ballots either at the St. Mary Parish Courthouse in Franklin or the Registrar of Voters Office, 301 Third St., Morgan City.
On Oct. 11, voting will be 7 a.m.-8 p.m. at individual precinct locations.
The parishwide proposition renews for five years a 0.45% sales tax dedicated to teacher and staff salaries. The renewal would be for five years. The tax is expected to raise $5.1 million a year.
Before it first passed on March 20, 2021, the tax was more controversial than the 62%-38% approval margin might suggest.
The board first proposed a 0.5% sales tax for staff pay and a technology fund.
Before it first passed on March 20, 2021, the tax was more controversial than the 62%-38% approval margin might suggest.
Local officials criticized the proposal for its economic impact. Then-state Sen. Bret Allain, a member of the State Bond Commission, objected to the technology fund dedication and threatened to support moving the proposition from an off-cycle municipal election date to a November election date, when passage was considered to be more difficult.
The board came back with a proposal for a 0.45% tax with no technology fund dedication.
The proposition passed in an election with a 15% turnout.
In 2021, the tax was expected to raise $3.9 million a year.
School officials said the resulting $3,000 raise for certified employees and the $1,500 raise for other staff members were needed to attract and maintain quality employees, especially after Lafourche Parish passed a teacher pay tax of its own.
At the Sept. 11, 2025, School Board meeting, Superintendent Dr. Buffy Fegenbush said the tax revenue has affected an average of 1,200 employees a year since collections began in 2021.
“These funds help the school system maintain competitive compensation and provide stability in classrooms and services,” Fegenbush said.
As of Sept. 1, St. Mary had 30,425 registered voters. The Republican and Democratic parties each claim about 35% of the parish’s voters, and the rest belong to no party.
Here’s the full text of the proposition:
Shall the Parish School Board of the Parish of St. Mary, State of Louisiana (the “School Board”), be authorized to continue to levy and collect a sales and use tax of 0.45% (the “Tax”), for a period of 5 years, beginning July 1, 2026, in accordance with Louisiana law (an estimated $5,100,000 reasonably expected at this time to be collected from the levy of the Tax for an entire year), with the proceeds of the Tax (after paying the reasonable and necessary expenses of collecting and administering the Tax) to be dedicated and used to supplement salaries and benefits paid by the School Board for teachers and other personnel employed by the School Board?

Superintendent seeks support for tax renewal

St. Mary Superintendent Dr. Buffy Fegenbush on Wednesday sought Parish Council support for renewal of a sales tax that goes to teacher and support staff salaries.
The renewal of the 0.45% sales tax appears on the Oct. 11 ballot. Early voting begins Saturday (see related story.)
Fegenbush said the tax generates an annual $5.1 million and “100% of it is dedicated to salaries and benefits of teachers, certified or not, as well as all our personnel and staff.”
The superintendent said the School Board is a major employer in St Mary, with 1,950 teachers and support personnel on its payroll. She said the tax renewal is crucial to funding salaries, in order for the system to continue its work to grow St Mary Parish, creating results beyond the classroom.
“Without this renewal, we will see a significant shortfall,” she said.
After her pitch, a few parish councilmen had questions.
Councilman David Hill asked why the board placed the measure on a ballot that had no other items.
“We chose October, because if the measure fails, we plan to come before voters again,” Fegenbush said.
Hill also asked her how much the election will cost the parish, and she did not have the answer at the moment and apologized.
If voters pass the tax on Oct 11, it would not have to be renewed again for five years.
The superintendent told the council the board’s state Minimum Foundation Program allocation from the state has dwindled over the years because of enrollment declines.
The MFP is based on a formula that distributes money based on student enrollment.
Fegenbush said that currently, the state funds St. Mary Parish at a rate of $6,900 per student. And that number fluctuates after the state sets enrollment based on the numbers as of Oct. 1 and Feb. 1.
“A yes vote on Oct. 11 shows an investment in our schools, and thus also in our parish,” she said.
Hill asked if any plans exist to consolidate schools.
Councilman Patrick Hebert asked if there are any plans for teacher reductions.
Fegenbush said that St. Mary Parish is still under a federal desegregation order. The government has certain formulas for student to teacher ratios, so there can be no consolidations or staff regulations unless they are approved.
Councilman Rodney Olander asked what happens to any money collected beyond the need for salary enhancements.
In reply to Olander, she said there has been money left on occasions.
At the end of the 2022-23 school year, an additional $1,000 was given to teachers and $600 to support employees. And at the end of the 2023-24 school year, $600 was given to each employee.
The tax has also generated more revenue than initially projected, largely due to state sales taxes being applied to online sales.
“It is truly an honor to serve our community,” Fegenbush said. “Strong schools build strong communities and the future of our parish, because of the opportunities that we provide.”

Wheel House for Sept. 26: Rummage sale

RUMMAGE
SALE
1-5 p.m. Friday. Oct. 3, and 8 a.m.-noon, Saturday, Oct. 4, First United Methodist Church, 109 Gilmore, Berwick  Lots of clothes, household items, several wooden desks and chairs.

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