DEAR ABBY: My husband is a nice guy, but he’s not particularly good at planning ahead. This means that special events, holidays and birthdays often go unmarked because he doesn’t remember in time to get something sent. In my parents’ marriage, all family communications fell to my mom. It was her job to send the Christmas cards, birthday gifts for nieces and nephews and to remember her mother and her mother-in-law on Mother’s Day. Our marriage is more egalitarian, and I don’t want the job of communicator-in-chief. My husband knows this and agrees that he should share some responsibility, but ...