DEAR ABBY: I’m married to a man 21 years my senior. “Joe” and I have been married six years. I have recently realized I’m gay and have fallen in love with another woman. Although Joe isn’t infirm or mentally deficient, he has a hard time making decisions on his own. He’ll read something, hand it to me and ask me what I think. He can’t form an opinion on his own, but God forbid you challenge an opinion he DOES have. Over the course of our marriage, he has become “crotchety” and burned all his bridges. Because of this, I ...