DEAR ABBY: I have been with my husband for 20 years. I’m 43, and he’s 63. Our sex life has died. He is no longer attracted to me, and he has let me know it. His love is physical, not emotional. I am not the size 4 I was when he met me. As long as my body looks like he wants it to look, he’s into me. If I’m a size 8 or more, he is not at all into me. I have a hard time understanding how he can love me for how I look. Long story short,