DEAR ABBY: My mom has never been what you would call a housekeeper. Dad did all the shopping, cooking and cleaning. As a child, I remember our house always being a mess. Mom worked, and I don’t know why she never felt like she needed to clean up after herself. My dad would straighten up after her, and there were often arguments about it. Fast forward. Dad passed away three years ago, and my mom hasn’t changed. She leaves things all over the house like she did before — dishes, bowls, soda cans, shoes. The first year, I would go over ...