DEAR ABBY: I am a 53-year-old woman who is a sexual abuse survivor. This has consumed every aspect of my life. It started when I was around 2, I believe, and was a daily occurrence until I was 14. My abuser was my paternal grandfather, now deceased. I’ve sought counseling and therapy groups — whatever I could — over the years, to no avail. I just can’t shake it. I have dealt with flashbacks, nightmares, failed marriages, etc. I just want to be and feel normal, and I don’t know how. Am I searching for something that does not exist? I ...