DEAR ABBY: My husband of 10 years is in the process of retiring from the military and is now re-evaluating “procedures” and “policies” of everything — including our marriage. I’m trying to respect his needs in an effort to help him make sense of things. However, there are times when I feel some of his new rules are hurtful or harmful and need to be negotiated or evaluated. (By the way, in general, I do not encourage or support the idea of “rules” in marriage aside from fidelity; communication should be the rule in my opinion, but I digress.) His ...