DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend, “Jane,” and I have been in love for three years. We’re both in our 30s. Jane and her daughter have lived with me long enough to know that I want to be a part of — and contribute to — the rest of their lives. Jane knows I never want to be married, but that I am committed to her. I know how to make sure she is taken care of in the event that I pass away, and I’m in the process of making that a reality. I would like to give her a special ...