DEAR ABBY: My son “Jake” was born last June. His father was a good friend who I thought I loved and that he loved me. The day I told him I was pregnant, he disappeared. Our baby boy just passed away from SIDS. I’m struggling with Jake’s loss and planning his funeral while taking care of my 5-year-old son. Jake’s father had his mother call and threaten me. She said, “His name better not be listed anywhere in the obituary!” I’m at a loss about how to deal with both of them. I did not list the father’s name anywhere, but it ...