DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in an extramarital relationship for 10 years. My husband knows, and so do my close friends. I love this man dearly, but neither of us want it to be full-time. I have children at home and don’t want to disrupt anything. We meet once or twice a week. He touches base with me several times a day, and is attentive where my husband never was. My husband isn’t bitter about the relationship anymore. However, my two closest friends continually say, “Well, why lie to yourself? You know you just say you don’t want things full-time so ...