DEAR ABBY: I have been friends with “Martha” for 40 years. We live a few hundred miles apart, so I like to call her and chat. The problem is, her husband always answers the phone, and he likes to give me a hard time. When I identify myself and ask to speak to Martha, he says he doesn’t know anyone by my name, or says there’s no Martha living there. Once he told Martha to ask me how my ex-husband was. (I have not seen my ex for 40 years, since our divorce.) The last time it happened, I told ...