DEAR ABBY: When I was in my teens, and even into my 20s and 30s, I was a Plain Jane. I had little self-confidence. But strangely, I’m one of those people who has gotten better looking as I’ve aged. Now in my 50s, I am better looking than many women my age or even younger. Men definitely notice me, and I love it. My problem is, I’m now obsessed with my appearance. I constantly worry that I’ll lose my looks. I have even considered cosmetic surgery. I don’t want to be the shallow person I see I’m becoming. What can I ...