DEAR ABBY: Our daughter, “Joan,” and her husband, “Frank,” have been married 19 years. Their only child will be 4 next month. A year and a half ago, Frank came out as a transgender female. Joan is handling this exceptionally well. Our son, “Alex,” is not. Our family will never have the traditional holidays again because Alex doesn’t want his daughters, ages 13 and 10, around Frank. We are heartbroken, worried for our children and confused about how to handle this new family dynamic. Joan plans on remaining in her marriage. Frank is legally changing his name to “Anissa,” taking ...