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Fiancé’s demanding mom puts a crimp in relationship

DEAR ABBY: I love my fiancé, but his mother says, “Over my dead body will he move away from me.” She has cancer and we have both been praying that she goes peacefully, but it seems all she wants to do is create as much strife as possible between my fiancé and me. I am now ignoring calls and texts from her. Any advice as to how to deal with my fiancé? He gets mean after three days at her house, fetching water, coffee and food (she IS capable). Please help me reframe this so I can be nicer to a hateful woman.
TRYING HARD IN THE SOUTH

DEAR TRYING HARD: What is your fiancé’s mother’s prognosis? Not everyone being treated for cancer dies of the disease. Does SHE think she’s terminal? If that’s the case, she may have said what she did because she’s frightened and in pain. You state that she is “capable” of taking care of herself, but some of the treatments she may be receiving have been known to leave patients feeling tired and weak. Because helping his mother leaves your fiancé on edge (“mean”), have you considered sharing the responsibility and giving him a break? And one final thought: If he’s mean now, what does that bode for your own future with him?

DEAR ABBY: A dear friend of many years has developed a cellphone addiction that’s driving me crazy — insisting on showing me funny videos, memes or camera filters when we visit. I respond either with disinterest or a polite “I’m here to visit with you, not look at your phone.” Some of her other behaviors are downright rude. She often shows up late, and I can clearly see she’s been making frivolous social media posts while I’m waiting. On a group road trip, she will silently play a phone game, excluding herself from the fun. I know this affects her job, too, and I have tried advising her along that vein, but nothing changes. Is this a sign of a friendship growing apart or moving toward different interests? Or am I just a cranky Luddite who needs to accept the new reality?
LOW-PRIORITY FRIEND

DEAR FRIEND: The person you are describing isn’t so much hooked on her phone as she appears to be hooked on herself. Keeping people waiting while posting to social media is rude, and recognizing it as such isn’t being “cranky.” I agree with you that the behaviors she’s exhibiting are symptoms of diverging interests. You may be less offended if you see less of her.

DEAR ABBY: Is it ever too late to report abuse? I’ve spent years dealing with the emotional pain my now ex-husband caused me, but I never made a formal report. Lately he has been trying to get in touch, and I’m afraid. Last time, he almost caused me to lose my life. Should I file a police report or not?
AFRAID IN OREGON

DEAR AFRAID: If you feel your ex-husband is a danger to you, contact the police and tell them you are afraid and why. Put the local authorities on notice, let them tell you how you can protect yourself, and follow through.
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East St. Mary Mardi Gras parade schedule

Parade Summaries
—Krewe of Adonis: Friday, Feb. 9, 7 p.m., Morgan City.
—Krewe of Dionysus: Saturday, Feb. 10, 2 p.m., Berwick.
—Krewe of Galatea: Sunday, Feb. 11, 2 p.m., Morgan City.
—Krewe of Amani: Monday, Feb. 12, 2 p.m., Patterson.
—Krewe of Hera: Monday, Feb. 12, 7 p.m., Morgan City.
—Krewe of Hephaestus: Tuesday, Feb. 13, 2 p.m., Morgan City.

Presidential primary will be March 23; check your registration

With national politics running hot and heavy, Louisiana voters will have to wait a month before they can take part in the presidential nomination process.
Primary election day will be Saturday, March 23. Early voting runs March 9-16, except, as usual, the Sunday during that early voting week.
St. Mary Registrar of Voters Terri Foulcard offered a caution: Presidential Preference Primary voting is limited to registered members of the Republican and Democratic parties.
As of Feb. 1, according to the Secretary of State’s Office, St. Mary’s 31,653 registered voters included 11,792 registered Democrats and 10,488 registered Republicans. That’s in a parish that gave Republican Donald J. Trump 58% majorities in the 2016 and 2020 presidential elections.
The parish has 9,373 voters registered as members of other parties or no party, and are ineligible to participate in the major party presidential primary.
Foulcard urged voters to check their registration information for party affiliation. The deadline for changes and new registrations is Feb. 21 at the Registrar of Voters Office, or March 2 for online changes or new registrations via geauxvote.com
The offices in St. Mary are at the Parish Courthouse in Franklin and at 301 Third St., Morgan City.
In the Democratic primary, 54 delegates are at stake, awarded proportionately based on the election results. Forty-seven delegates are at stake in the Louisiana GOP’s winner-take-all system.
It remains to be seen whether there will be a real primary race by the time Louisiana votes.
No prominent challengers have emerged to run against incumbent Democratic President Joe Biden.
Louisiana Republicans will see nine candidates on the primary ballot. But the biggest names among challengers to Trump have largely dropped out: Gov. Ron DeSantis of Florida; former governors Asa Hutchinson of Arkansas and Chris Christie of New Jersey; and Vivek Ramaswamy.
That leaves former South Carolina Gov. Nikki Haley as the last widely known challenger to Trump. After losing to the former president in Iowa and New Hampshire, Haley is pinning her hopes on her home state’s Republican primary Feb. 24 and Michigan Feb. 27.
March 5, nearly three weeks before Louisiana’s primaries, is Super Tuesday, when 15 states, including California and Texas, hold primaries and apportion about a third of the delegates in either party process.
Though a Biden-Trump rematch seems inevitable, huge uncertainties cloud the picture: Biden’s low approval ratings, a series of crises in the Middle East, and criminal and civil charges against Trump.
Still, it’s not clear there will be a meaningful nomination race by the time Louisiana Democrats and Republicans cast primary ballots.
Presidential candidates will not appear alone on the March 23 ballot. Both major parties will elect members for their parish executive committees and state central committees.
Here are the results of qualifying for party offices:
Democratic State
Central Committee
District 50 A
Alfreida Edwards, Franklin
District 50 B
Ajani Connor
Woodrow J. Parker
District 51 B
Howard Castay
Ralphon Triggs
Democratic Parish
Executive
Committee
At Large
(5 to be elected)
Benjamin Anderson
Alfreida Edwards
Jonathan B. Jones
Sam Jones
Oray Rogers
District 1
Lue Pearl Washington
District 2
Ella P. Hamilton
District 3
Donald E. Hahn Sr.
District 6
Lenny J. Dartez
District 8
Ann W. Poole
At-Large District 9
Gary M. Wiltz
At-Large District 10
Shelia Ann Jones
At-Large District 11
Howard Castay
Woodrow J. Parker.
Republican State
Central Committee
District 21 A
Matthew Gulotta
Chet Howard
District 21 B
Christian Gil
District 21 E
Ira “Joseph” Bourg
Stephen Swiber
Republican Parish
Executive
Committee
At-Large
(5 to be elected)
Christian Gil
Elise Gil
Rodney Gil
District 2
Chet Howard

Holiday closings

Mardi Gras season has hit its full stride and municipal closures have been announced.
Fat Tuesday will be a holiday for parish and local municipal offices. The city of Patterson will also close during the Krewe of Amani Lundi Gras parade as it passes its office on Main Street around 2 p.m. Monday.
The Harold J. “Babe” Landry Landfill in Berwick will close at noon Mardi Gras day.
The Morgan City Review office will also be closed on Fat Tuesday. However, there should be no disruption of delivery for the Wednesday paper.

Patterson council finds money to fix budget hole, hears sewer complaint

PATTERSON — The City Council on Tuesday took a step toward patching a hole in the 2023-24 budget. And a Mill Road resident asked the council to fix a sewer system defect that makes his life miserable every time it rains.
Chief Financial Officer Reginald Weary asked for and obtained council approval for permission to transfer up to $1 million in funds, although he hopes not all that money will be needed.
At its Jan. 2 meeting, the council learned about a potential $367,000 shortfall in the budget for the fiscal year that ends June 30. The original 2023-24 budget projected a surplus of $489,000.
Engineering expenses accounted for the biggest single piece of the unexpected expenses, about $355,000. About $200,000 of that total is related to the city’s new water plant, which is designed to operate with fewer chemicals than a conventional plant.
But the current plant lacks storage, which means it must run more often, costing more for labor and chemicals. An upgrade being designed now includes water storage.
The labor demands contributed to a $60,000 overtime bill for all city departments through the first six months of the budget year.
The money to which Weary asked for access Tuesday includes two certificates of deposit representing money left over in a fund that had been used to repay bonds. One of the CDs matures next week, and the other in April.
Weary also suggested tapping into a utility contingency fund.
Weary said that since last month, overtime has been reduced, and Police Chief Garrett Grogan said the department is cutting down on other expenses, too.
Weary said after the meeting that he’s hoping to avoid one of the suggested cost-cutting measures, a citywide reduction in the work week to 36 hours. Administrative employees at City Hall already work a 36-hour week.
Patterson is not alone among cities in having budget problems, Mayor Rodney Grogan said.
“There’s no frivolous spending, for inquiring minds,” Grogan said.
The resident with the sewer system nightmare is Howard Parker. His home is on Mill Road, which runs east from La. 182 near the Patterson Bridge.
With a polite demeanor barely covering his frustration, Parker said the taps and toilets in his home become unusable when rain falls. His family is forced to use the backyard as a substitute for the bathroom — in the rain, he noted.
When rain is in the weather forecast, the Parkers hurry to do the laundry and fill the bathtubs with water for use when the tap stops working.
Parker believes the problem is infiltration into the sewer system, which affects a handful of other homes in the Mill Road-McGee Road area and which sends sewage into nearby Bayou Teche.
He said he’s called the city repeatedly for help and appeared before the council as recently as three years ago, all without a remedy.
“What do I got to do to get some help around here?” Parker said.
Councilwoman Mamie Perry said this council, which took office only a year ago, hadn’t heard about the problem until Saturday. That was the end of a week of rain.
“It’s not like we don’t care …,” Perry said. “We don’t want you to feel that way.”
The mayor suggested that Parker should talk with consulting engineer Charles Franklin of Providence Engineering after the meeting.
They huddled briefly, and Parker came away with assurances that he’d get what he’d been asking for, a smoke test of infiltration points in the sewer line.
Also Tuesday:
—Pat Gordon of the South Central Regional Planning and Development Commission staff, which recently developed a new zoning map for Patterson, suggested a fix for what he called a typo.
Gordon asked the council to change the side-yard setback requirement in a residential zone to 5 feet from 10 feet.
City Attorney Russel Cremaldi said the change will have to be made through an ordinance. Under the normal procedure, the ordinance could be available for passage as early as the April 2 council meeting.
—The council approved a can shake for the Patterson High School Band Boosters on Feb. 24 on Catherine Street.

MARION 'MJ' JOSEPH DUPUY

(08/03/1944 — 02/07/2024)
Marion Joseph Dupuy Jr., a beloved husband, father, grandfather, and brother, passed away on February 7, 2024, at the age of 79. Born and raised in Opelousas, Louisiana, Marion was a proud resident of Berwick, Louisiana. He dedicated his life to his family and service to the community.
Marion, affectionately known as “MJ,” lived a life filled with simple pleasures. He found solace and joy in his work. MJ’s commitment to his job and his willingness to help others will be remembered by all who knew him.
MJ’s family was the center of his world, and he leaves behind a loving legacy. He is survived by his devoted wife, Trudy Dupuy, who stood beside him through thick and thin. His son, Troy Dupuy and wife Stephanie, daughter, Nissa Giarth and husband Hughston, will cherish the memories and lessons imparted by their father. MJ’s grandchildren, Ethan and wife Samantha Breaux, Brianna and husband Ashton Leger, Zachary and wife Lauryn Dupuy, Anna Giarth, Landon Giarth, Drew Parker and his great-grandchildren, Eli Dupuy, Miles Breaux, Izzy Dupuy, Freya Leger, and Reese Breaux, will hold dear the moments of laughter and love experienced with their adoring grandfather.
MJ’s siblings, Wil Dupuy, Bobbie Nowell, Shirley Burkhead, Brenda Guidry, and Carolyn Speer, will forever treasure the bond they shared with their brother. Through thick and thin, their family ties remained unbreakable.
Visitation will be held Friday, February 9, 2024 from 5 p.m. until 9 p.m. at Twin City Funeral Home. The visitation will resume on Saturday, February 10, 2024 from 9 a.m. until service time at 11 a.m. at Twin City Funeral Home.
Following the services, MJ will be laid to rest in a ceremony of love and remembrance at the Berwick Mausoleum.
MJ’s warm smile, gentle nature, and dedicated service will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him. May his memory forever live on in our hearts.

Wheel House for Feb. 9

DINNERS
Sold by Zion Chapel AME Church, 1511 Cherry St., Patterson, 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Friday, Feb. 16. Menu: fried catfish, white beans with rice, green salad, bread and dessert. Donation $12.

BLACK HISTORY
Celebration at New Zorah Baptist Church, 604 Julia St., Morgan City, 10 a.m. Sunday, Feb. 25. Guest speaker Patterson Mayor Rodney Grogan. Theme: “African-Americans and the Arts — Setting a Platform for Social Justice.” Everyone welcome.

Marcia Blereau joins Ochsner St. Mary staff

Marcia Blereau, NP, has joined the staff at Ochsner St. Mary Family Medicine Clinic. She will practice alongside Dr. Kazumi Yoshinaga.
Blereau earned a bachelor’s degree in nursing from the University of Louisiana-Lafayette and a master’s degree in nursing from Nicholls State University in Thibodaux. She is a board-certified, advanced nurse practitioner. She holds a national certification with the American Academy of Nurse Practitioners and is a member of the American Nurses Association, the Louisiana Association of Nurse Practitioners and the Sigma Theta Tau International Honor Society of Nursing. In addition, Blereau is a member of the Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration’s National Registry of Certified Medical Examiners.
With her father, Robert Blereau, MD, Blereau has served St. Mary Parish for the past 20 years. As a family medicine nurse practitioner, Blereau cares for conditions such as arthritis, diabetes, high blood pressure, osteoporosis, annual check-ups, and immunizations.
“We are honored that Marcia, a long-time Morgan City community member, has chosen to continue her career with Ochsner after the recent retirement of her father, Dr. Robert Blereau,” said Jennifer Wise, chief nursing officer and hospital operations administrator for Ochsner St. Mary.
Her office is located at 1302 Lakewood Drive, Suite 200, Morgan City. If you are interested in scheduling an appointment, visit Ochsner.org/schedule or call 985-380-4320.

Danos will provide planning, scheduling for Shell subsidiary

Danos, a leading energy services provider, announced the signing of a new planning and scheduling contract with Shell Exploration and Production Co., a subsidiary of Shell.
The agreement entrusts Danos to deploy a team of highly skilled personnel to support Shell’s upstream operations, underscoring Danos’ commitment to excellence in providing project management solutions, the Gray-based company said.
“With the contract, Danos team members will bring a wealth of technical expertise to oversee the scheduling of offshore projects and logistics for the energy giant’s construction, coatings and maintenance activities,” Danos said in a press release. “Operating at predominately onshore locations, the team will leverage its expertise to ensure skillful coordination and execution of activities.”
“Danos is excited to partner with Shell on a deeper level by providing planning and scheduling services,” said CEO Paul Danos. “The contract will allow us to live our purpose of developing great people to solve big challenges for our customers. At the same time, we’re proud to build on our 53-year relationship with Shell.”
In preparation for the successful execution of this contract and the growing service offering, Danos hired Donald Noland as its planning and scheduling operations manager. Noland brings 20 years of industry experience, with 15 years dedicated to planning and scheduling.
Founded in 1947, Danos is a family-owned and managed energy service provider.

Ribbon-cutting for Rodrigue Counseling Services

St. Mary Chamber Photo
Rodrigue Counseling Services, a children and adolescents behavioral therapist, on Saturday celebrated a new location at 1109 Eighth St., Suite 2, Morgan City. Pictured with owner Victoria Rodrigue are her family, Chamber President Beth Chiasson and Chamber board and representatives. The Rev. Francis Kayaye of Holy Cross Catholic Church blessed the office.

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