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Woman discovers truth about boyfriend’s dangerous nature

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a wonderful relationship and blissfully happy for two years. We live together.
When “Scott” and I first got together, he told me he had a felony conviction and that a woman had falsely accused him of rape. I laughed it off because I didn’t want to see the truth, but it ate at me badly. Then I finally looked it up via a background check, and it’s really bad.
Two months after his ex-girlfriend broke up with him, Scott broke into her house and raped her while she was passed out on prescription sleeping pills. She called the police the next day, and he got a plea bargain, went to jail for 100 days and paid her $20,000 in restitution, probation and the whole thing.
Scott still insists it was all her fault and that he is the victim. What do you think?
SHATTERED IN THE WEST

DEAR SHATTERED: I am so glad you asked. What I think is that you should extricate yourself from a relationship with this disturbed felon as quickly AND CAREFULLY as you can.
That Scott blames his victim for the rape he committed tells me he still has not accepted responsibility for his actions and that he is dangerous. Consider contacting the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (rainn.org; 800-656-4673) for advice on how to safely end it.

DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old woman dating a 63-year-old man. Our relationship didn’t start out in the best of circumstances eight years ago because he was still in his 25-year marriage. His wife had been living out of state. When she eventually learned about our relationship, she asked for a divorce. The divorce has been final for more than a year.
I understand that he is embarrassed to let his friends know he is now divorced, but his closest friends know. I’m still waiting for a time when I can be a part of his life without hiding, but I’m beginning to feel he has no intention of letting this happen.
He gets irritated and upset with me when I ask if this friend or that knows about the divorce yet. He doesn’t want me to meet his friends. Must I just accept that I was never meant to really be a part of his life, even though he tells me he loves me?
STILL IN HIDING IN WASHINGTON

DEAR STILL IN HIDING: I’m sorry, but I think you may be finally reading the handwriting on the wall quite clearly. If he were proud of this relationship and in love with you, he would be showing you off to his friends, not hiding you.
Have you actually seen his divorce papers, and are you absolutely sure that this man is divorced?

DEAR ABBY: I am 64 years old and happily married to a wonderful woman. The problem I’m having is she has a very large family.
Most of them walk into our home without knocking. Even if I know they are coming over, it bothers me. I would never, ever walk into any of their homes without a knock. I was raised that you knock before entering, even at my parents’ house after moving out on my own. What do you think about this?
PUT OFF IN FLORIDA

DEAR PUT OFF: Out of respect for your feelings, your wife should have spoken to her family years ago and asked them to either call before dropping in on you or, at the very least, knock. And if it’s feasible to keep the doors locked, do it.
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What teens need to know about sex, drugs, AIDS and getting along with peers and parents is in “What Every Teen Should Know.” Send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $8 to: Dear Abby, Teen Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447.

Veterans Day breakfast

Berwick Junior High's Student Council treated veterans to a drive-up breakfast Wednesday morning to mark Veterans Day. Top Photo: Veteran Sherman Whiting gets his breakfast from Jennifer Felton, left, and Danielle Pisani, teachers and Student Council advisers. Middle Photo: Berwick Junior High custodian and veteran James Smith talks with Principal Kristin Percle after receiving his breakfast and certificate. Bottom Photo: Lawrence Johnson, veteran and Berwick Junior High custodian, center, receives his meal and certificate from Assistant Principal Ryan Taylor and Percle.

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Presents that open doors: Operation Christmas Child is back

First Baptist Church in Morgan City is participating in its annual Operation Christmas Child collection, a program run by Samaritan’s Purse that aims to spread the Gospel and teach children in impoverished countries about Jesus.
The program involves filling a shoebox with hygiene items, school supplies, toys and some type of clothing.
While some children may receive the shipment at Christmas time, the shipments from various Samaritan Purse distribution centers are “staggered” throughout the year, Joycelyn Slaton, church relations coordinator at First Baptist Church, said Monday.
The goal is more the symbolic message than the contents in the box, she said.
“The main thing is each shoebox opens a door to present the Gospel,” Slaton said. “That’s its purpose. It’s not to say give this child the best toy you can find. It’s to excite them and get them involved in people loving them, that there are people somewhere who love them and God loves them.”
As of Monday afternoon, the church had gathered more than 1,500 shoeboxes. Of those, 525 came from their church, while a local family, alone, donated 805. Slaton said a year ago, the same family packed just over 1,000 boxes.
“We’ve been packing shoeboxes for approximately 20 years,” she said of the church. “We’ve been a collection center for 15 years.”
Anyone interested in the program can begin bringing their boxes to the church’s fellowship hall Monday and can continue until Nov. 23. The boxes can be delivered from 9 a.m. until 4 p.m. each day of operation where they will be received by someone at the church in a curbside drop off.
While any shoebox can be used, some people use plastic shoe box-type containers.
“In the past, they’ve encouraged that, if possible, because they can use the shoe boxes to go down to the stream and get water,” Slaton said. “They can use these boxes in the villages, but it’s certainly not a required thing.”
Those participating in the program are asked to include a $9 donation inside the box to cover its costs.
Slaton said if someone wants to purchase a bag of items for the church to fill boxes with or to make a monetary donation, those are acceptable, too. She said checks should be made out to First Baptist Church with the notation that it is for the Operation Christmas Child Program.
Last year, the church collected 4,861 shoeboxes, including 3,311 from the Morgan City area. The remainder came from other sites in Houma and Thibodaux where boxes were collected and brought to the Morgan City collection center.
After the boxes’ contents are checked in Morgan City to ensure they meet the proper criteria, they will be shipped to one of Samaritan Purse’s main distribution centers where they will be checked again. Then, they will be shipped to one of numerous countries worldwide.
The program is available to children, ages 2-14, and each child will receive one box in their lifetime.
Slaton said the church has had visitors who received the boxes as children talk about their impact.
“Things we wouldn’t think about as being special, to them means a world of difference,” she said after explaining how some of the items, such as a washcloth or a lighted yo-yo, are things that recipients recalled that they remembered the most.
The children who receive the box are offered the opportunity to participate in a 12-lesson program called “The Greatest Journey.”
“It teaches them about salvation and receiving Christ in their heart,” Slaton said.

Teacher pay sales tax is back on School Board agenda

The St. Mary Parish School Board is set to decide Thursday whether to ask voters for a sales tax to increase teacher and staff pay.
A proposed 0.45% sales tax for teacher and staff pay is on the agenda for the 5 p.m. Thursday board meeting at the Central Office complex in Centerville.
The tax would raise about $4 million a year, said Chief Financial Officer Alton Perry. School Board members are likely to propose a $3,000 annual raise for teachers and a $1,500 raise for other employees. The tax would take effect in July under the timeline.
An attempt to pass a similar tax earlier this year ran into a series of political and practical obstacles before the board decided to remove the proposal from consideration.
School officials have said they need to raise salaries to remain competitive in attracting new teachers and other employees. Last year, they pointed to a 0.5% sales tax proposal for teacher pay in Lafourche Parish, which, like St. Mary, is in line to attract newly trained teachers from Nicholls State.
Lafourche also withdrew its tax proposal from consideration.
The St. Mary School Board originally passed a resolution asking voters for a 0.5% sales tax, with the proceeds going into a technology fund as well as to faculty and staff pay.
The proposal ran into opposition almost immediately from Parish President David Hanagriff and Morgan City Mayor Frank “Boo” Grizzaffi over the potential impact on St. Mary’s economy.
State Sen. Bret Allain, R-Franklin, also objected to the inclusion of the technology fund and to putting the tax on a spring ballot. Allain’s opposition was especially significant because, as chairman of the Senate Revenue and Fiscal Affairs Committee, he sits on the State Bond Commission, which must approve the call for a tax election.
Allain said he recognized the need for more teacher pay. But if the technology fund was included, he said, he’d insist on a Nov. 3 election, when turnout would be higher.
The board eventually removed the technology fund from the dedication and reduced the proposed tax to 0.45%. On the second try, the Bond Commission approved the call for the 0.45% tax.
The ballot language developed by the Secretary of State’s Office didn’t match what the board intended. That and the COVID-19 pandemic led the board to remove the tax from consideration by voters.
Allain doesn’t seem inclined to be more supportive of the proposed tax increase this time around.
At a St. Mary Chamber luncheon last week, Allain said he believes teachers deserve more pay. But the timing is bad, he said.
“We’re hurting,” Allain said after the luncheon. “If you add an additional burden, we’ll be hurting more.”

From the Editor: What else are opinion polls wrong about?

Do you feel the polls conducted before the presidential election were a) a sinister plot by an anti-Trump cabal b) a sinister plot by an anti-Biden cabal or c) irrelevant going forward because the polls were so far off you’ll never believe a poll again?
The race between President Donald Trump and former Vice President Joe Biden was close. The polls were not close to accurate. And that has implications that go even beyond picking the person who gets the nuclear codes.
Statistical sampling in one form or another has a role to play in the products that get made, how they’re packaged and marketed, figuring out how the economy is doing, determining what stores will be opened in what locations, and a thousand other aspects of our collective and individual lives.
When it came to the biggest polling challenge of them all, the presidential race, the pros let us down.
They got a bad rap in 2016, when the consensus was that Hillary Clinton would beat Trump. Trump won, but the polls weren’t that far off.
The Real Clear Politics website lists more than 30 national polls conducted just before the 2016 election. The median edge for Clinton was a shade over two points, and that’s about the amount by which she won the popular vote.
The state polls weren’t as close, but even there, many of them showed races within the margin of error, especially in key states such as Wisconsin and Pennsylvania. TV talking heads couldn’t resist anointing Clinton as the leader based on an advantage smaller than the margin of error.
You can’t do that. That’s what margin of error means.
This year? Holy moly.
In Pennsylvania, for example, Biden had a lead of about 48,000 votes, or 7/10ths of a point, as of Tuesday. On Nov. 2, the day before the election, NBC had Biden up by five points. CNBC had him up by four. Monmouth said Biden led by seven.
Even Trafalgar, the generally conservative organization that got credit for being more accurate than the mainstream guys Nov. 3, had Trump winning by two.
Quinnipiac had Biden winning by five and Reuters/Ipsos by four in Florida, the president’s biggest swing state victory. Trafalgar did better, saying Trump was ahead by five.
In a reverse of 2016, the national polls were off by bigger margins. Quinnipiac, for instance, picked Biden by 11 points, and the Economist/YouGov poll had Biden ahead by 10.
The actual Biden victory margin, if it turns out to be a victory margin, is about three points.
So what happened?
Looking at the basics of polling might offer some clues. For the poll’s results to be accurate, everyone in the group being represented has to have an equal chance of being questioned. Only a tiny group will be sampled, but the respondents have to be chosen at random.
A lack of true randomness may have been responsible for American history’s other big polling blunder, the 1948 presidential election. Polling made Republican Thomas Dewey the odds-on favorite over incumbent Harry S. Truman. But Truman won.
The polls were largely conducted by telephone. Who didn’t have phones in their homes in 1948? Blue-collar people, farmers, other rural people, especially rural southern people, recent immigrants and minorities.
That was the Democratic base. Truman’s support was underreported.
Assuming the sampling is right, the margin of error is calculated by dividing 1 by the square root of the sample size. In English, that means about 1,000 respondents are needed to get the margin of error down to a respectable plus-or-minus 3%.
All of that depends on the questions being worded equitably. It also depends on accurate answers from the respondents.
This year, pollsters talked about the “shy Trump voter.” This was supposed to be a group of respondents who, for whatever reason, didn’t want to tell pollsters that they supported the president. We saw the same sort of thing in 1990, when David Duke outperformed the polls in an unsuccessful bid to unseat Democratic U.S. Sen. J. Bennett Johnston.
That doesn’t mean the president is David Duke. It means that some respondents may feel some pressure to give the pollsters the answer they think the pollsters are looking for.
It may also be that, because pollsters are part of the established political order and President Trump never has been, polls were consciously or unconsciously slanted against him.
Or there may be something about the nation’s shift from landlines to cellphones that statistical science has yet to come to terms with. Maybe people are declining pollster calls because they don’t want an auto warranty, and maybe that group is more inclined to support one candidate than another.
The danger is that voters will stay home because they think their candidate has the race in the bag or is so far behind that casting a ballot is hopeless.
But until political types figure out what happened in 2020, it’s probably safer just to go ahead and vote.
Bill Decker is managing editor of The Daily Review.

State police body cam policy under legislative scrutiny

Louisiana legislators on Tuesday challenged state police policies on body and vehicle cameras while stating that the agency should not be allowed to investigate itself when a trooper is accused of using excessive force.
Lawmakers earlier this year created a task force to review law enforcement training, use of force, community relations and other issues. New State Police Superintendent Col. Lamar Davis told members that troopers have the discretion to turn off their body or dashboard cameras if they think it’s warranted. For example, they might want to speak privately with a supervisor or protect the privacy of a resident of a home they are entering, he said.
State Sen. Cleo Fields and Rep. Edmond Jordan, both Baton Rouge Democrats, said some exceptions may be warranted but generally the cameras should be on. Fields said he considered the cameras important for holding law enforcement accountable while also protecting officers from false accusations.
“Why would we allow an officer, at his discretion, to turn on and off his body cam?” Fields asked.
Capt.Michael Glasser, a member of the task force and the New Orleans Police Department, said it would be “hideously expensive” to have the cameras on all the time and to store all of that digital footage. However, he said policies and training can make clear when the cameras should be on.
Fields suggested the Attorney General’s Office perhaps should investigate when there is a trooper-involved shooting or excessive force allegation, rather than State Police itself. Chief Deputy Attorney General Bill Stiles said the AG’s office doesn’t currently have the ability to investigate an alleged homicide but the local sheriff where an incident occurs does.
Fields said the public doesn’t trust internal investigations.
“There is a problem with the public with an agency investigating itself, period,” he said.
Davis urged members not to make any quick decisions and promised to keep an open mind.
Legislators created the task force partly in response to the death of George Floyd at the hands of Minneapolis police, though there are other examples closer to home. State Police currently are under scrutiny regarding the death of Ronald Greene, a case that now is the subject of a federal investigation.
From January 2013 through October of this year, 167 Louisianans have been killed by police, said Chris Kaiser, advocacy director with the Louisiana chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union. About one-third were unarmed, and the majority were black, meaning that Louisiana law enforcement officers are killing black people at a rate about 1.6 times greater than their share of the population, he said.

Bayou Horseshoe Pitchers Association scores

Bayou Horseshoe Pitchers Association
Fall League
Week 8
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She’s Back........48 24
Need Ringers....39 33
Four Guys........30.5 41.5
Ringer Time.....26.5 45.5
High scratch point average: (30’) Tim Gilmore 80.4, Pat Pertuit 61.4 and Angela Percle 56.0; and (40’) Dale Pearce 48.6, Clyde Landry 47.0 and Dwain Arceneaux 45.9.
High individual ringer percentage: (30’) Gilmore 61.1, Pertuit 37.9 and Percle 36; and (40’) Arceneaux 27.6, Pearce 27.5 and Glenn Miller 26.0.
High scratch game: (30’) Gilmore 93, Pertuit 75 and Percle 69; and (40’) Landry 65, Pearce 64 and Arceneaux 63.
High handicap game: Pearce 106, Landry 105, Miller 104, Travis Bourdier 102, Bryan Phenix 102 and Gilmore 102.
Most ringers: (one night) Gilmore 84, Percle 58 and Pertuit 55; and (one game) Gilmore 30, Pertuit 23, Percle 20, Landry 18 and Miller 17.
Most points one night: Gilmore 262, Pertuit 204, Percle 203, Pearce 175 and Arceneaux 166.
High game over average: Pearce 20.9 and Percle 9.3.
Best won-loss record: Gilmore 14-4, Pearce 14-7, Calvin Johnson 10-5, Phenix 8-4, Giroir 11-7 and Percle 11-7.
Most points one night (team): She’s Back 639 and Need Ringers 484; and most ringers one night (team): She’s Back 168 and Need Ringers 111.

Guys and Dolls, Petroleum League bowling scores

Petroleum League
Week 6 – Nov. 4
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Satchel of Richards......17 7
That’s How we Roll......15 9
A & M Dockside...........15 9
Johnny’s Wrecker........14 10
MISTRAS....................13 11
Coastwide Electric......12 12
Roy’s Trucking............12 12
M.C. Paint & Body.......12 12
Antebellum Renov.......12 12
Chabill’s....................... 9 15
Conrad Industries.........7 17
Allen’s TV Cable...........6 18
Individual high scores: Anthony Falgout 214, 214, 300 games, (728 series); Bobby Rotolo 234, 235, 258 (727); Gerard Labit 247, 227, 201; Kenny Keton 209, 258, 219; Marcus Jones 211, 209, 210; Eric Morrison 249, 236; Rick Sartwell 247, 222; Tamara Aucoin 233, 225; Joshua Thomas 223, 230; Patrick Thibodeaux 206, 238; Jerry Pillaro 215, 225; Gerald Colwart 256; David Boudreaux 234; Larry Deslatte III 229; Eric Cortez 221; Mike Kapp 216; Bruce Rentrop 216; Mark Corbin 215; Mark Kleimann 212; Jon Reynaud 202; and Alberto Bochas 201.

Guys & Dolls League
Week 6 – Nov. 5
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Satchel of Richards.......16 8
Fishing For Strikes........16 8
Hensgens Bros.............14 10
SNAFU..........................14 10
Int’l Alignment...............14 10
Jerry’s Kids...................13 11
Boss .............................12½ 11½
Deep.............................12 12
Johnny’s Wrecker..........10 14
Bach’s........................... 9½ 14½
Naughty But Nice............ 7 17
Moe’s Poboys.................. 6 18
Weekly high scores: (men) Adam Amador 264, 205, 246 games, (715 series); Kenny Keton 279, 224; Jerry Pillaro 270, 213; Hunter Boudreaux 238, 256; Thad Torres 255, 203; Patrick Thibodeaux 211, 242; Gerald Wiese Sr. 242, 234; Chris Mayon 212, 202; Devin Hidalgo 228; Gerard Labit 223; Sean Torgrimson Sr. 221; Ellery Mayon 209; Earl King III 209; Robert Fontenot 208; and Murray Hebert 204; and (women) Pam Hensgens 223, 203 and Angela Fields 202.

VIRGIL MASTERS SKINNER

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 1 p.m. on Thursday, November 12, 2020, in the Delhomme Chapel of the Flowers for Virgil Masters Skinner, 87, who passed away on Monday, November 9, 2020.
Reverend Gil Dutel will serve as Celebrant of the Mass and will conduct the funeral services.
Burial will take place in Fountain Memorial Cemetery.
Virgil, a resident of Scott, was the son of the late Barney Skinner and the former Theresa Masters Skinner.
He is survived by five children, Virgil M. Skinner Jr. (Jody), George D. Skinner (Mary), Timothy L. Skinner (Denice), Deborah Terro (Mike), and Annette Trahan (David); one sister, Joyce Orlando; his brother-in-law, Leighton Dashiell (Toni Anne); his sister-in-law, Cynthia Brittan; his wife, Pauline LeBlanc Skinner; his grandchildren, Elizabeth Skinner, Rachel Brunt, Paige DeClouet, Rebecca Fitter, Angel Kay Johnson, Courtney Cavazos, Benjamin Skinner, Katherine Lance, David Sonnier; and 14 great-grandchildren.
He was preceded in death by his wife of 59 years, Patricia Dashiell Skinner; two grandchildren, Joshua and Melanie Smith; and his brother, Gerald Skinner.
The family requests that visiting hours be observed at Delhomme Funeral Home - Bertrand on Thursday, November 12, 2020, from 10 a.m. until time of service. A Rosary will be recited at 11 a.m. in the funeral home.
Personal condolences may be sent to the Skinner family at www.delhommefuneralhome.com.
Delhomme Funeral Home, 1011 Bertrand Drive, Lafayette, LA is in charge of funeral arrangements.

WALTER TIMA 'TIM' GILMORE

September 19, 1942 — November 7, 2020
Walter Tima “Tim” Gilmore III, 78, a resident of Morgan City, passed away on Saturday, November 7, 2020, at Ochsner St. Mary in Morgan City.
Tim was born on September 19, 1942, in Franklin, the son of Walter Gilmore Jr. and Edna Hebert Gilmore.
Tim was a faithful and active parishioner of Holy Cross Catholic Church. He had a passion for music and thoroughly enjoyed playing music. Tim served his country proudly in the Louisiana National Guard.
He will be sadly missed and lovingly remembered by his wife of 55 years, Frances Dragna Gilmore of Morgan City; two children, Mary Gilmore of Morgan City and Michael Gilmore of Morgan City; five grandchildren, Devin Gilmore, Courtney Laneaux, Alyssa Gilmore, Joseph Gilmore and Hunter Taylor; and three great-grandchildren, Brielle Gilmore, Daniel Laneaux Jr. and Ayden Laneaux.
Tim was preceded in death by his parents, Walter Gilmore Jr. and Edna Hebert Gilmore.
A graveside service will be held at 1 p.m. on Thursday, November 12, 2020, in the Morgan City Cemetery with Father Toto Buenaflor officiating.

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