DEAR ABBY: I met my boyfriend, “Matt,” when I was a sophomore in high school. We started dating when I was a senior. By then, he was already active-duty military. We weren’t serious at the time (his decision, not mine). We’ve always had a long-distance relationship. During his first deployment, Matt broke up with me. He told me he didn’t want to see me again when he came home, although I begged him to change his mind. When he came home last year, he felt differently, and we’ve been together since then. Abby, he once told me after he’d been drinking ...