Dear Abby: Son invites rapist father to wedding

DEAR ABBY: My child “Logan” is the product of a sexual assault. He has located his father and formed a relationship with him. Logan didn’t know the circumstances of his conception at the time he contacted his father. He has now been made fully aware by our family as to what occurred.
Abby, Logan has invited this person to his wedding. I do not want to attend if his father will be present. Logan has told me that this man WILL be attending and that the problem is MY issue. I love my son, but this is beyond traumatic for me. I want to be there for the special day, but I cannot bring myself to be in the same room with the person who assaulted me.
This situation has broken my heart. I feel as though my feelings don’t matter to Logan and that he expects me to just push through this, go to the wedding and deal with it. What are your thoughts?
WORST-CASE
SCENARIO

DEAR WORST-CASE: Your son’s insensitivity to your feelings is appalling. That he would demand you ignore the fact that you were a rape victim and spend even a minute in the perpetrator’s presence is outrageous. Whatever decision you make to move forward is the right one for YOU. I am so sorry for your pain, which is palpable.

DEAR READERS: Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, and no Thanksgiving would be complete without sharing the traditional prayer penned by my dear late mother:
Oh, Heavenly Father,
We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry.
We thank Thee for health and remember the sick.
We thank Thee for friends and remember the friendless.
We thank Thee for freedom and remember the enslaved.
May these remembrances stir us to service,
That Thy gifts to us may be used for others.
Amen.
Have a happy and safe celebration, everyone!
Love, ABBY

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